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Hindus regard the institution of marriage as a sacrosanct sacrament and not just a contract between two people of opposite sex.

Most people tend to equate Hindu marriage with arranged marriage. Wise and concerned parents in order to meet the domestic obligation of a proper marraige, prepare themselves mentally and, more importantly, financially when their child reaches marriageable age. They search for a suitable partner keeping in mind the societal rules regarding cast, creed, natal chart, and financial and social status of the family.

What if the girl or the boy refuses to marry the person chosen by their parents? What if they choose a partner of their own liking and opt for a love marriage? Will the Hindu society rule out such a marriage?

And what about second marriage and polygamy? Is it okay by the the Hindu Marriage Act for Hindus to convert to Islam to remarry without a divorce?

Find out in this discussion, and don't forget to leave your comments below.

Comments
July 4, 2008 at 5:21 am
(1) raja raman says:

Those inconsistent people who dont have guts to make love and choose even their ‘life partner ‘ will always say arranged marriage is best!!!
ha ha ha

September 18, 2008 at 5:47 am
(2) Kapil Joshi says:

I personnaly feel that love marriages are much more beneficial in comparison to arranged but i also think that it is very difficult to predict the ideal sort of marriage. It is up to the individual to decide whether he wants to have a love or an arranged marriage.

April 5, 2009 at 3:26 am
(3) Sarah says:

I agree with Kapil Joshi. Its not about how much ‘guts’ you have. its about doing what will make you happy. many people around the world feel extremely priveliged to have a marriage arranged for them by a respected elder. if this is what they choose then good for them!

May 23, 2009 at 4:37 am
(4) naveed ahmed says:

i vl always in the favor of love marriage bcos u spend ur whole wth ur partner not the parents bt the sugetion of parents r also must

May 31, 2009 at 10:08 am
(5) pandu says:

love marriages are now a days becoming high in number but most of them are being collapsed because of lack of the meaning of love
on the other hand arranged marriages are being vanished but up to me these are the best because there is a chance of the parents who take care can involve and select a nice & suitable match.

June 1, 2009 at 7:04 pm
(6) Shruti says:

The concept of love in marriage and the concept of the couple’s choice being agreeable to the families of all involved should not be mutually exclusive, as some would like to think. Both together make a successful marriage possible.

June 20, 2009 at 10:10 am
(7) arshhii says:

i respect wat u all said. but i feel arrange or love marrige both also will be successful if u r ready to be with dat.. if ur r the person who is kind, faithful,truthful,religious,loving husband o wife insha allahh u will get bright future.
thankyou..

July 25, 2009 at 7:04 am
(8) medinat says:

hello i guess love marriage is much more better than arranged why?because what the arranged marriage has compromised alot in live of people you wouldnt have believed.most girls strangle themselves because of forcing them on marriage.parent should be surbordinate in selecting partner for their children.
i men it should be forbidden!!!!!!!!!
THANKS.

August 13, 2009 at 11:30 am
(9) mona paul says:

obviously love marraige is better than arranged.mostly for girls.u dont need to b bound with rituals & tradition.spouse can b free with each other.but firstly one have to realize is there true luv or infatuation btween them.then decide to tie knot.aranged is bakwas.bulls***t

September 6, 2009 at 3:14 am
(10) Ratnadeep says:

Love marriage is better. As in Mahabharata, people like Lord Krishna, Arjuna had love marriage. On the other hand, Rukmini, Subhadra were about to force to marry the person whom their father/brother had looked for them. This proves love marriage is more advisable than arranged. So the supporter of Hinduism must clean their minds in favor of love marriage and encourage it.
As Raja mentioned only the weaker people who are still not dependent on parents or have no taste of their own prefer arranged marriage.

October 4, 2009 at 11:45 am
(11) umesh sankhla,nagaur says:

i think love marriage is not bed if your lover is 100% true.with u, if it’s just afection, then it will be unsucessful, and if both are loving each other with honestly then they should marriage with each other and consider their defaults and + points,and share with each- other ,then they will be supereb couple in univercel… they will always happy and joy ther life..it’s true.. but i am come at family metter, then u should give trully all matter front of family and wait for “yes” by parents, as u know parents have a soft corner, they will agry..

October 5, 2009 at 7:49 am
(12) Rohini says:

It is not one or the other if you have some traditional selection process such as same socioeconomic, education and religious background will make your future life in love marraige stronger. It is not that parents selected or individual selected is better. Most marraiges fail in later life, when the other things become more important in your life such as raising kids with values and Social obligations.

October 6, 2009 at 3:09 am
(13) suman says:

wht i believe…India is a male dominant country wether we agree or not..and success rate of marriage in india is high as compare 2 foreign…because man says and women listens..but situation has chaged.we women r well educated..professional qualified and independent..no 1 wants 2 compromise..so be it arrange or a love marriage irs always better 2 benda bit then break…and marriage dnt break bcoz we have 2 raise kids with values or of social obligation…its a beautiful way of survival and statying tune and warmth in relationship

October 23, 2009 at 1:51 am
(14) Vimala Devi says:

If marriage is decided in heaven, why there is a debate over love marriage vs arranged marriage? Don’t the couple that is meant to be together will be together no matter what type of marriage they undergo?

October 23, 2009 at 1:54 am
(15) Vimala Devi says:

Since marriage is dacided in heaven, don’t 2 people who are meant to be with each other will be married no matter what type of marriage they undergo?

November 16, 2009 at 5:22 am
(16) rakesh says:

I think Love marrige is the best if you are really satisfied and commited to your partner.It needs alot of understanding and consistency.
Whereas arranged one is good if you are not in love with any one..arrangeed is waht indias tradition..

December 19, 2009 at 6:17 am
(17) anonymous says:

i completely agree wth pandu’s if u have a true meaning of love in ur relationship then it can be happily lasts longer…

May 26, 2010 at 4:47 am
(18) Md Wakeel Akhter Siddiqui says:

Love marriage in most cases is based on infatuation which later results in frustartion. One become so selfish when it comes to love marriage that one disregards parents wish and choices. One starts claiming that its my life and i will leave it the way I want without bothering that when you were 3-4 yrs old even then it was your life,but your parents were taking care of it.
So, simple thing is always take your parents in confidence if you are liking someone and thereby avoiding any resentment.

July 23, 2010 at 3:26 am
(19) amruta says:

marriages r based on love ,care , time ,faith ,comprimises ….its not about lov or arrange but its about your attitude towards life ….. But i must say love marriage is better in love marriage have strong bond as compare to arrange ….

July 28, 2010 at 10:16 am
(20) Ankit says:

I THINK ARRANGE MARRIGES are better than love ,because it is not the question of guts but it is question life you may have a guts to set a girl and to love but when the question of guts come you are over confident that you are with right girl. to find right girl for whole life is so tough annd i think that our parents has sen there whole life and they select the girl by watching you and the girl characteristics do they match or not as your teacher know that which question you can solve and which not
so just to belive on parents is good for our whole life

July 30, 2010 at 11:26 am
(21) Sofiah-Fly says:

Personally, I’d vote for arranged marriges because, where a “love marrige” is based on passioon and lust and romantics, those in an arranged marrige build their relationship on respect, friendship and companionship, which, is a stronger love than sex and roses if you ask me. I say this as a member of Western sociaty too. The divorce rate of “love marrige” is much much higher than arranged marriges too, so, was their really much love? Arranged marriges are about more than just two people aswell, it’s about two families, so, surly the family should have a strong say in the other family right? I’d rather spend eternity with a friend than someone I think I love, but will probably end up divorcing. Friendship is much stronger, and lasts a lot longer. =)

August 3, 2010 at 8:03 am
(22) Pari says:

How many of the youngsters know the meaning of LOVE. Just you liked a person, spend some time with him/her, enjoyed the company and decided to get marry. Specially in India how many childrens have guts to convince their family. And what, when the parents reject the relationship (most probably because of cast/religion/status) , the boy or girl suddenly gets ready to ditch one another when there parents force them. Doesn’t such kind of people knows what kind of family they had been living with from so many years and what are there likes and dislikes. How can they blame the society when they don’t know there closest ones. Its better you leave all this on your parents or forget them. You will have to do justice with one or the other.

August 27, 2010 at 4:01 am
(23) Dipressed says:

I believe love marriage to be better than an arranged one. My marriage was arranged and from the very beginning I knew we are not compatible but everyone around always tried to ensure that things will go fine after a certain period of time. Now when we are together we hardly talk. We dont feel comfortable sharing views, thoughts or even simple wishes to each other. Some times it seems that I am sleeping with a complete stranger.
My younger brother is going in for a love marriage and I have always seen him happy and full with energy. They communicate with each other so much that the amount of info they would share in a day we hardly share it in a month.
At times I am jealous of him. But nothing can be done.
I would say marry the person who loves you. This seems rediculous but it really pays later

September 23, 2010 at 10:29 am
(24) naidu says:

Arranged Marriages are offers Security for women since they have their family backup.
Love marriages provide freedom and More independence.sine the boy and girl know each other

September 27, 2010 at 1:35 am
(25) VG says:

The solution from my point of view for all the issues stated here is the open communication regardless of whether it is arranged or love marriage. Afterall everyone of us has got their own strengths and weeknesses and that is why we need another person in our life to complement. It is in your hand to make your life bitter or sweeter after the elders have done their job. The couple should think of them as a team working towards one single goal.

This doesn’t mean that love marriage is better. If the open communication doesn’t exist between the couple after marriage, they will feel that their love life was different (better) than their marriage life. Believe me this I have seen in many couples. Love marriage could be in many cases worser than arranged marriage.

October 24, 2010 at 7:25 am
(26) Gautham says:

Finding a perfect match is the base 4 a successful marriage………
people should understand and accept that it doesnt matter who finds him/her first!!!!!

November 7, 2010 at 7:53 am
(27) sipu says:

even now a days the boy and the girl are asked before they get married for their consent in the arrange marriage.so it shows that parent choose the girl which their son or daughter liked. the same is happening in the love marriage except you had choosed him/her without your parents concern. what will happen if all the partner selected by your parents are disliked by you? males are dominant over female by insist not by the societal rule. he may not wish to dominate his lover but it may create a conflictory situation within him.
so forget about arrange or love .if it is arranged then love it or if it is love then make it arranged. just live happily

November 8, 2010 at 11:24 am
(28) yogesh kothmire says:

love marred is can b done but there must b the a part of earning in between the both and in colleges its fun in both of them its a part of time pass but when it comes in true life a it takes a painful turn in colleges it haves a physical attraction i like u, u like me on the pocket money of parents , if parents oppose it in any way for marrege then u must marry it dosent mean u waste ur time 4 year in college and then u must do merrage if u have guts in u life is not a time pass to waste time soo think about it god bless u ……….

November 11, 2010 at 3:34 pm
(29) hema says:

love marriages are scrap!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

November 15, 2010 at 10:14 pm
(30) Padmini says:

Arranged marriage is better than love marriage.

November 16, 2010 at 2:49 pm
(31) mohit says:

the thing is hw beautiful the girl or boy is externally as well as internally which make the marriage alive for long time.
secondly the security of job.

November 17, 2010 at 1:24 pm
(32) hout6u says:

ghtry6ru ghfy

November 30, 2010 at 12:19 pm
(33) chauhan says:

Today sociaty is changing. Boys and girls today in sociaty do not bother about what there parents capabilities are. Just imagine the position of parents of middle class when his son or daughter ask for such things which are not possible for them. I am here to say a complete different story. Parents always want to fulfil each and every demand of there son or daughter. But when it comes a question of mirrage (some stupid one of them forget the sufferings of there parents). The simple thing they say is” Its our life.” Some one rightly said here that when you were 3 or 4 years then also it was your life. And if you are not earnig well or setteled well in life. Then also you should think it is your life. Parents never think any thing bad in there childern life. Finally I would like to make a conclusion that if you deside a love mirrage try to convience your parents. If parent of both side agree then only go ahead. Otherwise say bye bye…… to love mirrage or go to hell(which is the final destination of most of the so called LOVERSSSSSS).

December 4, 2010 at 11:43 pm
(34) Anura says:

I think love come arranged is always best. But even an arranged marriage, with the acceptance of both the bride and groom in question, would work well if they have a chance to meet and basically date each other for a couple of months or so before making the final decision. It really depends on what works for you and there is no “RIGHT”/”WRONG” choice.

December 7, 2010 at 2:11 am
(35) neeyathi says:

An arranged marriage is the best for spiritual upliftment of an individual. Being a hindu, i support arrange marriages. If you read the Hindu scriptures,and especially The Gita, Krishna makes a point to Arjua on this…yada yada karmam tada tada jananam. What were steps we take to quench our physcial and materialistic desires as a consequential effect on our spritual consciousness. Even our ancestors may not accept if we move out of our community- the pitra dosha has strong impact on the progeny of one’s family.– Better to chose your partner taking the advice of an elder within the family.
Opinions may differ- people may argue we are in the 21st century and still i am old fashioned. but i think time we retune our thinking to alter our self towards a spiritual upliftment.

December 7, 2010 at 4:17 am
(36) Pradip Datta says:

Hi

Love marriage is mostly based on infatuation and results in frustration. I most cases i have seen love marriage results in breakup after marriage. High expectation and ego between the couple results in breakup. So arrange marriage is better. But here love is all about union of two soul. Only after marriage we are able to understand the true meaning of love. Self respect between the two is the important thing for a successful marriage life.

Thanks

Pradip Datta

December 7, 2010 at 4:33 am
(37) Velayutham Pillai says:

Arrange Marriage & Love Marriage..are time and background are strongest better….so “good Blees”

December 7, 2010 at 6:07 am
(38) yashveer says:

judge the person in the act of normal circumstances… that is all matters….

December 7, 2010 at 6:49 am
(39) Mohanji says:

For all the one for arrange marriages I would like to share the discussion of two illeterate fellow passengers on a suburban local train in Mumbai which is an excellent suggestion -

“90% of the time the problem starts in a arranged marriage because of the relation strains between the mother-in-law and the bride, so why do we match the horoscope of the boy and the girl, rather it should be that of the girl and would be mother-in-law”

In a love marriage all the ‘s’excitement seems to fizzle out with marriage, after that the story is not much different whether it is love marriage or arranged marriage.

I am for arranged marriage, May God bless all those who go for love marriage too.

December 7, 2010 at 9:05 am
(40) Melissa says:

Dipressed,

It makes my heart ache to read your post. I hope things work out for you. If you want to talk please email me.

As an American, I am intrigued by arranged marriages. I wish my parents would have invested enough in me to care about my partner. They do not care at all. I love my husband dearly and I am glad we are together and I wouldn’t change a thing. I just wish my parents cared deeply for me like so many Hindu families do for their children.

December 7, 2010 at 11:00 am
(41) chilli cheese says:

When you accept your partner for who they are and admire their good qualities, any type of marriage will be harmonious. =)

December 7, 2010 at 11:05 am
(42) Nishi says:

I prefer love marriage to arranged marriage. Its a matter of entire life. In love marriage at least you know the person , his habits, his strength and weakness , have an idea about his/her family whereas in arranged everything is new.. you spent most of the time knowing the person… unfolding new secrets..
Of course every marriage needs adjustments… but it shouldn’t be a compromise ..

December 7, 2010 at 4:11 pm
(43) Rajesh says:

The Original ancient practice in India was “Swayam Var” meaning that the girl has a right of choice to choose her husband.References to swayamvar abound in our scriptures & religious texts. One of the most prominent one’s being Sita’s marriage to Rama.
Over time that practice changed and slowly the practice of “parents arranging the marriage of their children” became prevalent . Even in this, the views of the bride & groom were paramount. This practice too over time has been eroded and the western viewpoint of “arranged marriage” has become common currency.
The bottom line is EVERY MARRIAGE is a social event and so HAS TO BE ARRANGED…arranged by whom is not important.
Also EVERY MARRIAGE has to have LOVE in it….whether that love happens before or after is a matter of chance.
Most western so called “love marriages” are just an excuse to have sex before marriage.Once the lust dies down so does the marriage….the very high rate of divorce in the west is testimony of this

December 8, 2010 at 12:16 pm
(44) Vidya Bhushan Sharma says:

Mere vichaar me vivah sada saman vayakation evam apne kul or jati parampara ke anusaar hi hona chahiye. Apni jati ke hi stri purush aapas me ek dusare ki bhavnao, ichaon evam parivarik paramparaon ko gehenta se samajh sakte hai. Antar jaatiya vivah pratha ko maanav swasthya ke liye vaigyanikon ne bhi haanikarak mana hai. Swayamvar vidhi se bhi jin kanyaon ke vivah hue hai( SITA, DAMAYANTI, DRAUPADI AADI) ve bhi jeevan bhar dukhi hi rahi.

December 10, 2010 at 8:08 pm
(45) Rishi says:

I am a proud Hindu and as a 24 year old, have seen and expirienced life….and I say no marriage is rational.
Stop getting married people.

December 15, 2010 at 1:56 am
(46) Raj_Anjali says:

1. It is correct love marriage is always better then arrange, and you can make it best if you go for love with arrange. I know it is difficult to convince you parents for this and very difficult if it is inter-caste but if you have a positive attitude and true love and your parents also truly love then definitely they will agree for this. And if it happens, you will be a very lucky guy of the world………..All the best to those who believe in love

December 20, 2010 at 12:03 pm
(47) nivetha says:

love or arranged marraige wat ever it is …
it is based on d kind of person v r gifted and d love v show for them wil fix our life :p

January 9, 2011 at 10:14 pm
(48) fat person who likes burgers says:

arrganed are the best

January 23, 2011 at 4:44 pm
(49) pam says:

“marriage is an act of love between two person that no one is accountable on it except two people who loved each other without the concerned of others ‘a love which end to bows from life til death to God.therefore thats Is called “Love Marriage”

February 5, 2011 at 1:29 pm
(50) abhijeet sinha says:

both are ok on there side.
it depends on the two persons understandings.,respect for each others family and caring for your love partner.

February 12, 2011 at 7:32 pm
(51) I love 28 yogesh kothmire says:

Yogesh i really love you will you please marry me. I want you to give me happiness in life and we can go through college together. And then waste our parents pocket money. It is a paragrapgh atraction. GOD BLESS YOU! And may he fill your life with spagehttie

February 25, 2011 at 3:33 pm
(52) Poulami C says:

I believe that parents are always there to think/pray best for the child but no parents could teach their child to fall in love and adore one person madly through out his/her life. Its upto the child whom he/ she will want as a life partner and define their own love…….. So i will be always supporting a love marriage. If parets are really concerned about their child then they should be happy in what their child is so but no offence for those who preffer “Arranged Marriage”…. But one question for them Are your parents gonna stay with your spouse for a lifetime?

March 8, 2011 at 9:29 pm
(53) satty 9713484513 says:

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March 10, 2011 at 1:12 am
(54) Confu says:

I am actually spoiling my life, caught between this love and arranged…
I started reading this to look for an answer and guys, you have confused me more.
She says, marry or F off, ..parents say, r u sure, if u do so, we will lose all our dignity n all
:( (((((((

March 17, 2011 at 5:59 am
(55) sakshi says:

In my opinion love marriage is much better than arranged marriages coz in luv marriage we know the person much better.we r aware of his/her strengths and weaknesses.they get ample time to explore both the gud and bad things about each other,wel before marriage.This helps them to develop good comfort level after marriage,very effotlessely

April 14, 2011 at 5:16 am
(56) KULDEEP SINGH says:

i think arrange marriage is better than love marriage because a “love marrige” is based on passioon and lust and romantics, those in an arranged marrige build their relationship on respect, friendship and companionship, which, is a stronger love than sex and roses if you ask me.
plz ask this question to your parents and they will suggest you better bcoz they live thier whole life, 99% people not knows the meaning of love. love has short life in this case. plz ask sombody who have done love marriage. it’s easy to say that “i love you and marry with you” but very difficult to complete the sentence.

“don’t do love marraige it’s not the matter of choice it’s matter of life and life partener and whole family”

April 23, 2011 at 8:09 am
(57) Arif from tirupur says:

I don’t know about marriage life bcoz i’m single now, but i want to spend rest of my life with my girl.. If i miss my love i can’t get from anyone else in this world.. So DON’T MISS UR GIRL FOR ANYTHING, SHE S PRECIOUS……… MISS U VEENA……

April 28, 2011 at 2:30 am
(58) Akhil says:

This comment is for those people who are like love marriage.
You don’t think about your parents.
your parents can plan your marriage & you have to destory their dreams & plan to do a love marriage.
Who gave you the rights to heart your parents. I am totaly faver in arrange marriage.

May 1, 2011 at 6:52 pm
(59) bhushan says:

I got married (arrange) in 2008…the only thing i don’t like in arrange marriage is that u don’t know the life partner’s Nature & Lifestyle in DEEPLY….

May 10, 2011 at 5:44 am
(60) naveen nc says:

Nowadays people forgets to realize wheather is there true luv or infatuation btween them. People those who dont have guts to make love and choose even their ‘life partner ‘ will always say arranged marriage is best. I personnaly feel that love marriages are much more beneficial in comparing arranged marriage. arranged marriage do not have compromise and leads to divorce. Most of the people commits sucide because of forcing them on marriage. parent should be favourable in selecting partner for their children. In love marriage u dont need to be bound with rituals & tradition. We will feel free to share our thoughts with our spouse.

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May 16, 2011 at 11:45 pm
(62) Jennifer Lopez says:

Arranged marriage is best and also love marriage is better when arrange after love with agree with two family.

May 18, 2011 at 4:01 am
(63) ashish says:

i fell love marriage is not the best option bcoz true love very rarely exist so its better to go for arrange marriage and let the love happen, i would love to go for love marriage but true love is not easily available today girls flirt more than boys thay play with their hearts so its better to be safe than sorry

May 21, 2011 at 9:41 am
(64) Krishna says:

Love can be true love or fake love… Love can be sincere or blind, love can be between souls and between bodies.. The former is always lasting, latter disastrous.. So… If true love is found, congrats. else, grave can alone save u…

May 25, 2011 at 12:14 am
(65) JubJub Poofna says:

i think love marriage is better then arranged marriage becasue you can find the perfect loving and caring person for you and you dont wanna end up with some random that you never know what they could do to you. there is alot of reasons why i wouldnt do it and why i would choose love marrige over arranged marriages…

June 1, 2011 at 2:49 am
(66) donsie says:

Love marriage is suicide and arranaged marriage is homicide. in Love marriage, love is there before and not after marriage.just a physical attractions only. most of the people make wrong decisions, because of immaturity and hormonal imbalances

June 9, 2011 at 6:26 am
(67) JuNaId Ali Shaikh says:

arraing marraige is better

June 18, 2011 at 7:11 am
(68) Kakali says:

Arrange marriage is far better.. arrange marriage is not force marriage.here parents chooses perfect boy/girl for their children. the way its too better because we can use the experience of our parents.so chances r few that our spouse wl be bad in nature. in young age we don’t have the ability to decide who is better for us.then why not to leave the decision on our parents?they after all love us, want our good. they wl not ruin our life.what we should check is the compatibility with our partners before marriage then i think no problem will come. and life wl be a smooth,happy journey :-)

July 7, 2011 at 10:40 pm
(69) Amit kamboj says:

Hello friend ,if u r love to each other so the firstly love after that the arranged

July 15, 2011 at 5:17 am
(70) Dr Malathi says:

Love or arranged marriage is not generalised.it depends on the individuals lifestyle,attitude and response to the life/ problems arising out of marriage.if u really wants to be in love with the person u got married u will never leave ur partner. most love marriages are becoming unsuccessful because of lack of support of parents because they feel responsible only for what they have done.getting married to children is not a responsibility but giving them a successful life with support and love.

July 16, 2011 at 2:48 pm
(71) Kitty says:

Hi All,

I think whether arranged or love marriage, the important thing is how well you know the person with whom you have to live your life.
Love marriage – well love is beautiful and last long only if there is a perfect and total understanding between the two.
Arranged marriage -It takes pretty much good amount of time to know your better half BETTER so by that time you ARE INTO IT, there is no thought of stepping back, its all set to move forward.
And I prefer Love + Arranged so that I know the person better and i have my parents with me ALWAYS!!!!!!!!!!!!

August 7, 2011 at 4:07 pm
(72) Dr. Baroda says:

Now , i totally believe in LOVE marriage . But whom i love believes in arrange marriage . I am not against arrange marriage because if i cant get her , i also should go for arrange marriage . But as per me , Benifit of LOVE marriage is UNDERSTANDING between both partner . My partner says , she has cousin who divorsed after LOVE marriage . Now this is most silliest reason ever i got , against LOVE marrige . I know people who got divorced after arrange marriage as well . ITS ON BOTH PARTNER TO SUCCESS THEIR MARRIAGE LIFE .

August 10, 2011 at 12:44 pm
(73) Manish says:

I know only one thing if U love some one U automatically pomp up with a zeal to convene the people and UR parents Too.

Love marriages are best no doubts But you have to convence UR parents not only for U but also for UR partner too as he already give up her family just for U and need Ur family off course..

So…Do Love Marriage but Love Family too….!!!!

August 11, 2011 at 12:32 pm
(74) mikal says:

Arranged marriages should have gone the way of fountain pens and horse drawn carriages. They are all about maintaining gender inequality. Shame on those who advocate it and pity for the young ones who are ‘forced’ into it !

August 28, 2011 at 2:45 am
(75) Akash Dohare says:

I think …… both are good… but now daz it seems like dat ki .. love marriage is better coz. both th couple knoe each other very well n know to treat other………. but wi can’t guaranteed dat love marriage is long lastingg 1. it can be break down any time. due to missunderstandings.. so think deeply n decide which 1 is better

October 18, 2011 at 9:30 am
(76) Ashwini Damani says:

Advantages of Arranged Marriage

Here are some of the advantages of arranged marriage – A tongue in cheek comment

http://goldensilt.blogspot.com/2011/10/arranged-marriages.html

October 29, 2011 at 5:32 am
(77) iya says:

arranged marriage with love is much better!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

y

October 29, 2011 at 5:37 am
(78) iya>>>>the researcher!!! says:

arranged marriage with love is much better!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

November 11, 2011 at 4:34 am
(79) Greshu patoriya says:

love marriages r best yaar.. we have 2 spend our whole life with our dearest life partner.. not with our parents..parents should understand the love of their children:)

November 12, 2011 at 3:35 am
(80) Kundan Kumar says:

First thing, Since marriage is decided in heaven, don’t 2 people who are meant to be with each other will be married no matter what type of marriage they undergo?

2nd thing the boy/girl can not find a partner they will say arrange marriage is better. I have seen so many people who were searching for a girl but if they will not get success then they will say arrange marriage is better. I will obey my parents, this kind of thing.

So i think marriage depends on situation and obviously it is decided in heaven. So no matter it is love or arrange.

November 15, 2011 at 12:15 pm
(81) raihan roy says:

i love ; love marrig

November 17, 2011 at 1:40 am
(82) ANSHU GOYAL says:

Love IS LIFE,,,,,,,,,,,,NO LOVE ,,,NO,,LIFE,.,.////END OF LIFE.,.,.,,.,

November 25, 2011 at 11:57 am
(83) rohokale machhindra says:

love marraige is give the partner of thier own choose and arrnaged marriaged give the partner give their parents to them

November 29, 2011 at 3:04 am
(84) amitesh tripathi says:

As this debate is not new. Here someone is saying arrange marriage is good and some others are saying love marriage is good.
but i thing both are good and bad. both may collapse and both may make thier life heaven. This is possible only with the simple word i.e. Commitment.

If you don’t have this in your marriage life then no one can help you.

November 29, 2011 at 3:07 am
(85) Premilla Haripersad says:

I strongly believe in arrange marriage its not about falling in love
but growing in love. Mine was an arrange marriage n married for 31 years good or bad. I say we have to work hard to bear the fruit.

Second wife in the same marriage is wrong.

November 29, 2011 at 3:46 am
(86) Amudhan says:

To hell with arranged marriages, they are surviving because of the social taboo attached with divorce. 90% of arranged marriages are surviving because in almost every case the wife is dependent upon her husband and lack of support from parental family and from her own friends. Arranged marriage system must be eradicated for the benefit of humanity

November 29, 2011 at 7:17 am
(87) Chaganand says:

Marriage is always an AGREEMENT or arrangement that makes the rules about power. Arranged marriages have the problem that the couples don´t have the possibilities to decide about their lives. They are always dependent about what their families would decide, because they have made the arrangement also the monetary one. So it is about POWER use, or abuse. Young people must have support and advice from their families, not impositions. I understand that is very difficult for young people in families strongly hierarchical, and more difficult in a society that is very male chauvinistic.

November 29, 2011 at 9:46 am
(88) Man says:

Life is a challenge for all – living a healthy life is becoming rare with all kinds of diseases. In this a compatible partner through arranged marriage which considers different factors, ensures many problems are avoidable while getting the co-operation of all. It spreads happiness and positive energy and makes one better prepared to face the day to day challenges as there is love, respect, approval from elders, help from family and an extension of the family

November 29, 2011 at 3:44 pm
(89) Doonwati says:

I think that love marriages and arrange marriages are both equal in my view. Nowadays there are so many divorces because women are NOW working and can support themselves therefore they are not staying and suffering in bad relationships. Most arrange marriages long ago only the husbands was working whereas the wives took care of the home and children. Wives couldn’t give their opinions about anything, they were not treated like equal partners BUT like slaves and nobodies. Certainly the divorces were less because where would they go with no jobs to mantain themselves. They all stayed and suffered silently because they couldn’t do any better. I asked a few women why they’d stayed in bad relationships. They all said we were not working to mantain ourselves and couldn’t return to live comfortably in our parents home. We had to stay especially when we had our children, where could we go with 3 or 4 children. Those same women said if they had jobs and could have afforded to take care of their children and themselves they wouldn’t have stayed in those relationships. They said that they stayed and took all the abuses, emotionally, physically and mentally.

November 30, 2011 at 5:56 am
(90) Haripryja says:

to know yourself is great, to love yourself is greater! If you let love guide you…there is no need for marriage…that way everyone must stand independent, educated and wise on their own feet. Ultimate bliss is to let love flow freely!

November 30, 2011 at 12:10 pm
(91) Faezal says:

What about remaining happily unmarried? Love or arranged, don’t forget this: “It’s an agreement where a man loses his bachelor’s degree and a woman gains her master’s!”

December 12, 2011 at 2:30 am
(92) confuse says:

I am in love with girl. she loves me very much. and i love my family more. i am between the love and the cast. What can i do?

December 22, 2011 at 9:45 am
(93) sriram says:

LOVE IS GREAT

December 25, 2011 at 1:48 am
(94) PASHAM says:

Hi friends,

I feel that though it is love marriage or arranged one, if u wouldn’t belive each other that marriage will not stay for long life.
I feel sacrificing for each other is the best love & it never ends

December 29, 2011 at 2:06 am
(95) Debankur Paul says:

Hi !!!
I think Love marriage is the best way.
But the couple must have a Deep Love and Compromise to each other.
Hers the Boy/girl have to think that if his/her lover is perfect for him/her or not ?
In arrange marriage the bride and the groom do not know each other deeply. There may be some past of both of them which were not shared between them before marriage. After marry when any one of them come to know the Past, it makes difficult to make a happy married life.

January 7, 2012 at 12:56 am
(96) bibhudatt says:

love marriage is as better as arrange marriage

January 11, 2012 at 7:50 am
(97) Bini says:

Our life is in GOD’s hand..so leave our life 2 him,he wil lookaftr u.. MAY GOD BLESS U ALL…

January 12, 2012 at 1:07 pm
(98) ASHIK says:

IT’S NOT DEPENDENTS UPON SOME ONE HAVE A AFFECTION OR ATTRACTION! A MAN NEED TO LOVE THE SOUL OF WOMEN TO SHARE THE PERSONAL WITH OUT ANY HESTATION! NOW A DAYS IDOIT MAN AND THEIR PARENTS PREFFERED THE ARRANGE MARRAIGE ONLY FOR THE FINANCIAL BACKGROUND AND THEY DEMAND THE MONEY WITH BEAUTY, IF IT IS CALLED ARRANGE MARRAIGE MEANS THERE IS A ANOTHER WORD “PARENTS WELCOMES HER DAUGHTER WITH OTHER MEN FOR PROSTUTION”. LOVE NEEDS TO COMPORMISE WITH SOUL, NOT WITH MONEY AND STATUS OF EDUCATION WITH OTHER BACKGROUND!! MAY GOD BLESS EVERY WOMEN AND MEN WITH LOVE NOT DEMANDING THE MONEY FOR MARRIAGE’S!!

January 24, 2012 at 12:46 am
(99) nandu says:

its nice to see some like minded comments in todays world where people blindly go behind love just for the fun or for the fantasy of being in it…and later ditch it due to family obligations…you’ve not fallen from outer space to tell its my life my choice…respect wat ur parents tell and share ur views too…they are not ur enemies and they are definitely more valuable than your fantasy girl/boy (lover) …u can be nice life partner if look into d goods of ur better half….

January 24, 2012 at 1:07 am
(100) nandu says:

and if u observe all the comments carefully u’ll find out dat the number of people supporting love marriages are more but people who are supporting arranged marriages have more stronger solid and valid reasons to support their stand….matured thinkers support arranged marriages…

January 29, 2012 at 5:36 am
(101) manju iec says:

love marraige is give the partner of
thier own choose and arrnaged
marriaged give the partner give their
parents to them

January 29, 2012 at 10:38 am
(102) DIBYANARAYAN HAZRA says:

Hi friend,
I am Dibyanarayan Hazra. I am support Love Marriage. I will give all reason.But first i want say some thing.
In INDIA Parents always think about their child love. If someone falls in love it will punishable in home. It is not true.Real example one of my friends falls in love with good moral girl. He told his parents then his parents refuse his prayer and rusticate from home. Parents do not give money to him, he loss his carrier object. He can not keep “Hons”. So he first loose his education. He may be a great person so India loss one new star. In that way so many student got stacked.

Now another one mentality ,
One of my senior falls in love then he talk with his parents again refused by parents without knowing the girl. After two years someone parents start to see girl for their son. Son said “Whom I want I can not get her according to you so whatever you choose i will accept” to his mother. Then they start to find and finalize one girl then one copy of picture gave to his son. He is shocked that it is that girl who is loved by him. After the marriage he said to his parents she is this girl whom I want. It is real so now what you say about this type of family.

Now I am for in love marriage.
1> We should know each other before marriage.
2> A girl or a boy can do acting for three or five days not for long time. So when parents went to see him or her then he or she becomes good one.
3> If a boy and a girl is not perfect to each other then after marriage divorce is must.
4> Marriage is done between two people so decision should take by two people.

That’s why I support LOVE MARRIAGE.

January 29, 2012 at 3:12 pm
(103) Claudia says:

Hello!

I’m not from India but I met a brahmin guy at work. We fall in love and we were together for some years, he traveled to India and he talked to his family about me but they didn’t aceptme and now we are not in contact. I’m devastated and I know he was the real love for me. Probably I didn’t born in your country or any caste vut it doesn’t mean I can be a bad human. Unfortunately I didn’t have. Any opportunity, his family never knew me as I live in a latin country..
For obvius reasons a always will go on love marriage of true love!. In the country I belong to is true some people divorce but there are also thousand couples continue together for years and until death, even in my religion catholic the marriage is a sacrament and it says that you should support and love your partner in all circunsatances, in abundance and difficult moment in health and sickness until death take you apart from each other, what God has blessed the man could never take apart.
The reason because we should marry some one is only for love nd high comitment with your partner nd yourself that will make your relationship work well with love, respect, understanding, comunucation, honestly, and support to reach your own objectives and your partner objectives as a couple as one.
I think commitment, respect, honestly, faith and trust in your partner with a good comunication is a key in all kind of marriage around the world! If you really love your partner all these feeling will come and you will do everything to make your relationship continue for all life!
I’m extremly sad and devastated I really love him and I can’t understand why I couldn’t have any opportunity only bcse probably I was not lucky enough to bor in India!
A person soul should be more important that any social or economic interest or caste rules. All of us are human and we should tret everybody as equal with respect giving same opportunities…
Am I different or unworthy only bcse I born in a diff country?

January 31, 2012 at 6:45 am
(104) Adil Usto says:

Haye guyz,,,

I prefer to arrange marriage because our parents are educated religious thay can chose better for us ………

that enough

January 31, 2012 at 5:35 pm
(105) sabrina says:

for those who said love marriage is based on infatuation and passion and arranged marriage on respect,companionship and friendship,i must say that that does not mean that there is no lust for arranged marriage couple or no respect or friendship among love married couples.those who marry on the basis of love do so because they have known each other for a while,they might have been in the same educational institute or working environment or may have pursued same type of interests.so its very likely that they have had many things in common or they have known each other for a while.i personally feel that this way the boy and girl can involve into more meaninful,respectable,friendly,and joyous relation.on the other hand,arranged marriage is like exploring the other one,there is also lack of sharing and understanding before marriage which makes it a matter of chance and destiny.if you get a good match thats good luck….what if its not a good match.at least if the same thing happens with love marriage ,its wont be that painful or worthless coz u still have some good times of sharing before marriage when things worked out and guided to marriage.so from all perspectives,i would personally say marry on the basis of mutual love ,affection,and commitment,instead of weighing or making some value judgements on the basis of looks,status,income potential,and selecting and rejecting individuals on the basis of that.love rulllllllllzzzzzzzz.and so does love marriage.

February 2, 2012 at 7:51 am
(106) zohaib says:

good

February 3, 2012 at 12:59 am
(107) amit chauhan says:

hi frnds i will suggest u go for arrange marriage bcoz its nt only about us its about our family our culture our family acpection sm people says in love marriage u can know about ur partner his /her choices nd about everything but that all thing we can handle easily after marriage also but if we will go without our family then we know very well how many hearts we will break to make only two hearts so depend u guys

February 4, 2012 at 1:59 pm
(108) priya says:

Frnds..just want to mention living with anyone frnds,parents,colleagues etc needs adjustments. there would have been many situations where we were upset with our parents but did the love flew away.no we still respect them their feelings. have open free space to share.If you have same feelings with ur partener what stops you then. If you respect and feeling being respected. If you feel free to share and are always there to share. In my perception you are good to go.For me arranged marriages are like lottery tickets with 80% chances of success.
If you have to adjust in life why not before marriage.At least you know and are sure that you have found someone who understands you and ready to bend.I just hope noone falls in that remaining 20 % zone because if you find someone how is so adament and least interested to adjust then the relation is in soup.

February 6, 2012 at 2:02 pm
(109) Dilisha Indeevarie says:

Ummm… I ‘m kinda doing this debate with my claz mates on arranged vs love marraiges… ;) I’m on luv marraige side…& i don’t know what 2 tell and how 2 debate with facts…Can anyone out there help me? :p

diligrly@hotmail.com

February 9, 2012 at 1:05 pm
(110) Rajat Gupta says:

Acc to Both type of marriages are good if there is a understanding in between but if you guyz see the rate of divorse is incresing beacause people marry each other by seeing love only there is always a gap of understanding.

February 14, 2012 at 12:15 pm
(111) Navya says:

Here i cannot say love marriage is different n arrange marriage ,because in every relation is bound with love only ,without having love we cannot go throug ,first we must have to b free with our spouse,nd if u really want pure love from otherside person/ur lover ,first u give that love to him automatically he/she will gets change,n moreover u must give the confidence to ur dearer that “u r there for him/her forever at the peak of ur death”, that promise really get change ur life do try .”if ur mind is really fixed about any relation u will be having happy in any relatn”

February 16, 2012 at 6:36 am
(112) website says:

3 cheese

February 22, 2012 at 1:01 am
(113) Nitin Kumar chaurasia says:

Love Marriage isn’t our tradition, if those guys couples thought that love marriage is really good it means that they should live in foreign because this is western culture, love marriage neither good nor bad for our society, we should obey our parent’s if they don’t have any problems to do this love marriage so we can, because first our parents then our lover so we should give priority to our parent not our lover, love is infatuation and i just want to say one thing for my all Indian people’s don’t behave like that manner lest you should repent after some time……..because there are many elopement cases registered these day in India so be aware about this……..:-)

February 24, 2012 at 1:05 am
(114) Asmi says:

I am love marrege person and verry happy with wife. my wife also alote loved me.but some time i think love marrege with our all femily accept them then it is too better.but if any couse our famely will not assecpet them then it is not good for our life.(compermise is not for holl life),whenever you both too love eachother.
Sorry for our comment

February 24, 2012 at 10:52 am
(115) rajiv singh says:

what a funny… a parents taught her daughter not talk or contact with strange persons but suddenly they forced her to sleep with strange.how it can be possible to give our whole and precious life to a unknown person and how much it is right. arrange marriage is nothing but a lottery that totally depends on luck what we will get or what we will lose no one knows before it happens.its nothing but a funny game.self choice is much better for marriage..

February 28, 2012 at 1:46 pm
(116) Rachith varma says:

My openion both arrange and love have equal importance.. for a good future we need an arrange marrage for satisfying our respected parents.. and for self satisfaction we need to love also.. so firstof all we have to give authority to choose a girl/boy to our parents , then we want to spend some days or months or few years with him/ her as a lover, then analyse the whole character and family background of him/ her. then we have to decide he/ she is perfect/ notperfect in our life……

March 1, 2012 at 4:14 am
(117) rajvardhan says:

love marriage very happy and enjoy our self that’s why i support love marriage

March 1, 2012 at 4:18 am
(118) rajvardhan says:

i love love with arranged marriage……………………………………………………

March 5, 2012 at 2:19 am
(119) Doonwati says:

Hi Mr. Dibyanarayan Hazra,
I’ll like to say one thing about your senior friend and his marriage. His marriage was blessed and made in heaven for sure. Imagine his parents didn’t want him to marry his girlfriend without even knowing who she was. He then told his Mom that he will marry the girl of their choice. It is truly amazing that their choice of girl happened to be his girlfriend. How wonderful! I wish them the best in life. As I’m typing this I’m thinking this is a very good story for an Indian movie. Thanks for sharing your friend story with us. God bless!

March 10, 2012 at 1:26 am
(120) Shakthi says:

before saying which is best, I can see so many of you leading a unhappy life with partners selected by a third person (parents become 3rd person when coming to an individual’s life)- so many of you saying Hinduism preaches arrange marriage- those of you don’t know Life- Hinduism for ur info, preaches the most modern ethics always- if u r accepting someone without any personal interest in an arranged marriage, you can know what it means. and it is a Sin.
it is your life to decide- the chance is yours- you choose between love and arranged- but don let anyone make the final decision on you and thus giving them a chance to live your life- there are few things you should never give others- ur socks, ur footwear, ur dresses and the choice of your life. Wake up. You have only 1 chance to live- how to do it- YOU DECIDE.

March 10, 2012 at 1:32 am
(121) Shakthi says:

Shakthi also says-
Don choose a life considering others’ happiness, content- then you will feel none of these in your life- anyone who forces you an option that you don like, can never do any good to you.
also, people giving you options cannot feel your pain of an unhappy life.
Try explaining things a hundred times, thousand times.
When they still dont understand, just pity them and take a call because this is YOUR LIFE.

March 14, 2012 at 9:10 am
(122) jeni says:

frieds love marriage is best coz known devil is better than unknown ghoast

March 14, 2012 at 9:10 am
(123) jeni says:

frieds love marriage is best coz known devil is better than unknown ghoast

March 14, 2012 at 9:10 am
(124) jeni says:

frieds love marriage is best coz known devil is better than unknown ghoast

March 20, 2012 at 2:05 pm
(125) Nitin says:

i think arrange mrg is more powerful than the love mrg in all the way in all conditions bcz the couple knw exactly what is he/she is always after marriage when they live together with a family then they knw each others personal habits which they dnt before mrg and if the partner likes then the marriage is subsist otherwise divorce but in arrange marriage they both are new in a relationshp and they wanted to knw each other even a smallest thing of partner and than they starting to love each other and this love doesnt demand break up if u not beleive in my words then see ur parents or grandparents love towards eachother a

March 28, 2012 at 10:57 am
(126) sara says:

Love marriage is mostly based on infatuation and results in frustration.that is true.In this world our parents only take care all about our life since childhoold.They always select a good choice.so arrange marriage is give a successful life and happyness for all.

March 29, 2012 at 12:31 pm
(127) TakeGood says:

the best marriage is the ARRANGE THE LOVE IN MARRIAGE.

March 29, 2012 at 2:06 pm
(128) mohan says:

love is just for romance so you need to observe first arrang merrge fixed high like long year periob no problems where as love merrage just for attractions

March 30, 2012 at 2:13 am
(129) Abdallah Rahaman says:

Every human has different thinking for Love as every person is different from one another., some are good people and some are bad… To make Love, agreement of two heart is enough,… but for a good relationship both families should understand…… Love can keep only a couple happy but cannot keep both families happy and together. Every body knows internally but never disclose…… No human is perfect in this world so no human can be a good lover…. even a single lie between a couple is a solid proof of imperfect love…. Especially ladies make the problems after marriages making their partner lie.. and this is universal truth and even ladies know this…. This is my suggestion to ladies… /////”Please Love your beloved once, if you are loved by him… otherwise you will destroy your partners life, both on earth and after death, dont make your partner lie to you”/////

March 30, 2012 at 2:32 am
(130) Abdallah Rahman says:

one single life is not enough to understand LOVE,….. LOVE before marriage will reduce after marriage….LOVE before marriage is something you lose internally not knowing…. Life is too short,.. to have a better, peaceful and happy life… dont marry a partner if there exists a conflict between two paartners…. coz conflicts cannot be solved once raised….. Your parents can select you a better pair…. No women can say that her husband is perfect, as women cannot be satisfied by anything or anyone…. If you gift a ring she will ask for bangles too… If you gift a bangles she will ask for necklace…. its like dil mange more… so one cannot keep a women happy as women is full of desires…. Good women is one who can keep his man happy unless a man is the best one…… So guys dont simply listen to heart… heart cannot make decisions…. Think from the top…. all the best….. only few words are not enough to expalin about love…..

March 30, 2012 at 2:35 am
(131) Aziz Khan says:

Human cannot understand what LOVE and so human cannot LOVE…… LOVE can be only between GOD and the living beings on earth……

March 30, 2012 at 2:48 am
(132) Abdallah Rahman says:

I am not a failure in LOVE but I am writing what I experienced…. I respect LOVE…. LOVE is not success unless you respect LOVE…. unless you obey LOVE…. unless you love your LOVE…. LOVE is perfect only if the minds and hearts are clear…… so try to keep your minds and heart clear….. If a women is not good, then dont just get irritated, try to change her with LOVE and if you cannot change then you are not a perfect lover….. in LOVE everything should be with LOVE…. please LOVE with rules of LOVE and if you cannot then just dont LOVE….. Protect your LOVE without watching or talking or moving out with your LOVE before marriage… This will generate Sexual affection…. and Sexual affection cannot be a LOVE…. If sexual affection raises then you will get anger if the partner doesnt come on date…. dont make LOVE a bitch….. dont remove the cloths of LOVE…. please respect LOVE…. if you cant LOVE then dont give the relation name of LOVE

April 8, 2012 at 10:03 pm
(133) jass says:

I’m a female of age 24. I am for Love marriage because in love marriage you will get to know the person before you marry him/her. In arrange marriage you marry a complete strange and how can you sleep with someone for whom you feel nothing for?? isn’t that a pure lust??? Having sex on the first night with someone you married after arrange marriage is more of “one night stand” than making love.

Well, love is NOT about sex!! You get to know the person, you share your joys, sorrows, happiness, experiences, cuddles, jokes and going wild without trying to be someone else. However in arranged you can’t be yourself, you are always trying to unfold the mystery of the other person!

Another reason, i am going for love marriage is that i have seen so many failed arrange marriages in my family, relatives and friends. The examples include:

1. My parents marriage was arranged and they never go along with each other. My father always claimed to be the dominant one over mum all bcoz mum was less educated. Secondly, he did beat her up at time, swore at her! That was an arrange marriage!

2. Uncle left 8 month pregnant auntie just for his family back in India! That was an arranged marriage!

3. This family friend, he would beat her wife each day, he was having an affair with some woman outside! He kept forcing his wife to have children till they finally had a son! this was an arrange marriage!

4. My grandparents: grandpa always tried ruling over grandma,, just bcoz she is a woman!

there are many other examples of arrange marriages i can write here but all i want to say that, in love marriage you don’t have to be stuck to the person. If it doesn’t work out, so it doesn’t. But respect is the most important thing in a relationship which i have not seen in arrange marriages! thats y i am towards Love marriage!!!

May 26, 2012 at 8:58 am
(134) rahul says:

according 2 me ARRANGE marriage is better than the LOVE marriage because SEX life have to be done so there nothing is interested THAT’S WHY

June 2, 2012 at 11:57 am
(135) len says:

@ rahul – r u rahhul agrawal?

June 29, 2012 at 7:13 am
(136) JAYANTHI says:

i am support to arrange marriage .

June 29, 2012 at 7:26 am
(137) KRISHNANJAAYTNHI says:

HAI,

i AM SUPPORT TO ARRANGE MARRIGE ,LOVE IS ONLY PERSENT TENSE ,BECAUSE FORGET THE THE FUTRE TENSE,THAT EDUCATION AND FAMILY BACKGROUND SO PARENTS NOT SUPPORT THE MARRIAGE. LOVE MARRIGE IS NOT SUPPORT MARRIGE SO QUICKLY BREAK. BUT ARRANGE MARRIGE IS FUTRE TENSE ,PARRENTS SUPPORT SO CONTINUE FOR LIFE LONG.

June 29, 2012 at 7:28 am
(138) PRIYA says:

ARRANGE MARRIGE BETTER THAN LOVE MARRIGE

July 2, 2012 at 9:00 am
(139) umesh says:

love marriage is best

July 8, 2012 at 5:18 am
(140) leangyeak says:

there are many idea of love marriage n arrange marriage …….. both have their own point,, even thought i still strongly agree with love marriage !!!
coz i do fall in love with one boy too.

July 8, 2012 at 5:19 am
(141) leangyeak says:

i love…….love marriage

July 8, 2012 at 5:21 am
(142) leangyeak says:

i love…….love marriage…

July 14, 2012 at 7:43 am
(143) Arshia says:

helo friends,
i wud like to share some views of mine…dat i hd observe…
when parents r going through twds finding a perfect match.. den by considering their views u must check out the boy or a girl and try to compare her/him with ur gf/bf if u find bettr den her dan go for her else..vice versa!!
m only sayng ds as bcz parents view shud also b considrd othrws wen u r marrying wd a girl or guy whom u love..then u hv no ryt to think why the hell i m marryng wd ds gal or guy…so dont change ur mind in any situation!!

July 14, 2012 at 8:14 am
(144) neelam says:

love marriage is the best for ever..!!;)

July 16, 2012 at 6:31 am
(145) manish gautam says:

Its not aboutt which is better its about which is succesfull and which is long lasting
giving example for ur viev is a joke
love marrige is also old thing not new then why it is noeasly adaptable
because if u could not ynder stand ur parents by knowing them so many years and u challanging u r so uch comfortable with ur chisen person for veru few time
love marrige show only infatuation because if it is not so why every love marrige having beautiful partners
there r so many person near by who r so intelligent but not goodluking but we r not going for them in love affairs
so ARRANGE MARRIGE IS BETTER.

July 24, 2012 at 1:07 pm
(146) subham says:

I think it depends. First of all it isn’t good to compare this kind of things. Love marriage is very good in the sense that before our marriage we know the person whom we are going to be married. Before marriage there is kind of mutual bond between the couple. It is just like heaven with the man/women of your dream. But in arranged marriage all of a sudden we are left to live with a stranger. But figure shows that love marriage are more prone to divoce. It actually a debatable topic, and has no true solution.
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August 6, 2012 at 11:53 am
(147) Sahil says:

I feel that arrange marriage is better because it mostly leads to happiness and now a days children make their own choices even in arrange.
in love most of the marriage end in divorces. the love they had before marriage starts diminishing after marriage. But in arrange marriage the understanding builds after marriage by then they both have time to settle down in each other life so i prefer arrange marriage.

If the love marriage doesn’t turn up the parents are the one who regret the most..
so always think before taking important decision in your life

August 11, 2012 at 6:57 am
(148) SACHIN KUMAR says:

most of the parents do not agree for love marraige because of the other cast… n when we fall in love with some one we never want to even know … parents should understand the new generation… parents do not be right always…. i dont believe in cast…. we are human and come in this beautifull world to live…. who gets love marraige never wants to loose their parents…. if parents get ready to leave their son or daughter just because of cast and their ego…. then why don’t we…..we can’t ignore parents roll in love marraige…… I GOT LOVE MARRAIGE WITH AGAINST OF MY PARENTS… ONE YEAR PASSED I M STILL HAPPY WITH MY DECISION…. EVEN MY PARENTS TOO…. I LIVING WITH THEM

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(149) bhRgav says:

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August 17, 2012 at 4:44 am
(150) Mohindar Mondal says:

I believe in Love Arrange Marriage….Love someone who ll be flexible for ur family, worthy of ur family. choose some1 who can satisfy your parents.. choose some1 and approach ur parents confidently for arranging your marriage…..problem solve….

August 17, 2012 at 8:11 am
(151) bhRgav says:

I truly support love
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Since last 5 years we’re together and belive in me there’s Nothin like love
As said by Mr nandu about all the comments favouring love marriage are UN matured sir according to the lovers you are immature u need to change and let people live their life.
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(153) Arshad says:

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August 30, 2012 at 9:19 am
(155) sabitha says:

i am sorry i m not against love marriage bt the fact is”ARRANGED MARRIAGE” will be better while making comparison…. we cant fix a particular person as our soul mate……its impossible…….however after marriage you are going to be loved by your life partner so be happy with that y to waste time by making love?????????

August 30, 2012 at 9:10 pm
(156) amit kumar says:

I think arranged marriage is more successful than love marriage . Because most of the love is not love only affection and new age young could not able to decide properly that their love is true or not. But parents have lots of experience of life so they choose perfect partner for their son or daughter.

August 31, 2012 at 3:00 am
(157) Abdul Musavir Adoni Town says:

Marriage is a part of life, you must have to marry in this regard all the major religions tells should have to marry- in want way u will marry is the different think, majority of the people are having a misconception regarding marrying more then one women is only in islam, if u study the spiritual books of hinduism god sreekrishna married how many womens? after 1952 the indian govt made an amendment that a hindu should marry a women, but here we never have to what the act say because constitution were writtened by man, where as religious was written by god think think please dont critics any others before knowing the real background. please excuse if some think wrng

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(159) sherbaz says:

i yhink love marriegei better than arrange marriege

September 23, 2012 at 2:57 am
(160) MUZAHIR says:

i think love marrage is better than arrange marriage coz love marriage can be arrange marriage but arrange marriage rear case of it canvert in love BECOZ LOVE EK BAR HOTA HI LIFE ME AND AGAR WO NA MILE TO LIFE KA KOI MATLAB HI NHI HOTA

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(162) jyotsna says:

i think both r best we all knw that our parents choose the right person of us bt think dat,is alwys they r right so y doweery cases are incres in arrenge marriages,i support in love marriage,bcz i think in love marriages the person u love is alwys with u either ur family or in laws r supports u or not…….

October 14, 2012 at 10:59 pm
(163) love sid says:

arrange marrige is best cause-
parents will we with u if anythng wrong hPpen after mRriage.u can liv in a joint family. she will respect u more by call u “aap”,”hangi” insted of “0ye”, “tu”.
whynot love marriage-we know already d whole thngs abut or gf so it mKes d life booring aftr marrge.if she wants to live alone without parents thn we cant refuse her.if there is any problm in d relation thn our parents will not interfare..she wil shop more.

October 15, 2012 at 2:27 pm
(164) Anoop says:

I’ve tryed both and found the arrange marriage is the one most beautiful thing i’ve ever experienced.

November 8, 2012 at 7:20 am
(165) ramsevak yadav says:

i think arreange marrige better than love marrige…bcouse you cant go aginst your father what will u think about u………..so pls dont disapointed your perents they love u very much

February 6, 2013 at 5:04 am
(166) Abhijit says:

i think love is better…………….

February 19, 2013 at 12:20 am
(167) shailender singh says:

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February 19, 2013 at 12:42 am
(168) Parminder singh says:

love marriage is always better than arrange marriage because in this age money is life but which couple fall in love only that person know about love life and money and those people know about love life and money they are always success in life at any wayw

March 21, 2013 at 12:48 pm
(169) Mansi says:

Love marriage is better than arrange marriage….

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(170) ven says:

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May 21, 2013 at 12:08 pm
(173) Sonam says:

Love marriage is better than Arranged. But it also depends how much both believe on each other, how much both adjust with each other, how much they give time to each other. Its nothing like divorce cases happen only in love, many times it happens in arranged also, many times in love also. It totally depends on partners how much they lov & try to adjust with each other.

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July 1, 2013 at 4:20 am
(175) Abdul says:

If you are ready to sacrifice your freedom, money, parents, relatives & fiends then marry whether it is arrange marriage or love marriage.
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July 6, 2013 at 9:15 pm
(176) a white massai says:

Love or arranged ones, it doesn’t matter. I believe you should give time to get to know ur “second-half”, and in various situations. Ahh one thing that actually differs love marriage to the arrange ones is that the first happen natuarally while the second well both parties are aware about such kind of bond and the will to fulfill it..lis like a Cupid arrow, if it happens that both like each other :) . As for parents wish… well they want the best for their children and are experienced into marriage life, so they shoul be happy with their children choice, after all somehow we are their mirrors and reflect the values that they teach to us, therefore our choice really count on such values :) . Just feel ready to commit :)

July 23, 2013 at 6:34 am
(177) arun prasad says:

U cn giv 1000 reasons fr arrange mrg s better.Bt simply lov mrg s d bst. I mean ‘true lov mrg’. Ther s a lot of diffrnc btwn true lov& infatuationl lov. Tru lov nvr fails.I mean mutualy understanding, loving,trusting& carng. Its an univrsl truth.Dis wil cover al exceptions, limitations &edges.True lov only occur whn dey mutualy undrstnds& trusts each othr.Suddn lov like seeing a beautiful boy r girl &fall n lov or by impressng a silly thing &gettng lov s nt comes under tru lov.It wil break down whn their opposit sex attraction& lust subsides.Whn u r arrngng mrg u just arrngng a boy &girl for reproducting their genrtion withn their same circle.Ther s an healthy rltionshp may b maintaind bt nt a satisfied mutualy undrstndd bondng.Tru lov, care, affectn, trust r primry, other things like reltionl, social status, religion, caste, money, age, even parents consent r secondary.Tru Lov s an essence of lov mrg. It wil giv mor taste 2 life.Arrange mrg s just a saltless food.Lov ought 2 happen naturaly. It should nt b arranged like a business. If u can able 2 decide wht do u want like pen, dres, bike, food, course of study, job nature, fnds circle etc in your life then why cant u decide who s ur life partner?. The only thing u cant decide in d world s ur birth & parents.Even u can decide ur death.A parents domination part s 1ly til d schooling ends. After that our future s in our hands. Parents & relatives should be an advisor bt should nt b a driver of our life. We r living in modern world nt n king ruling ancient world. Thos who depending on others fr evn simple things cn nevr decide wht they want.Those peopls nvr get d taste of tru lov. Those people 1ly argue about arrange mrg. Simply a mrg s which d 2 mutualy undrstndng minds coincides. It wil occur n tru lov &wil nt in arranged love. Its universal proven truth. Other arguments r useless.

August 6, 2013 at 9:02 am
(178) preet says:

Love marriage is better than Arranged. But it also depends how much both believe on each other, how much both adjust with each other, how much they give time to each other. Its nothing like divorce cases happen only in love, many times it happens in arranged also, many times in love also. It totally depends on partners how much they lov & try to adjust with each other.

August 6, 2013 at 6:33 pm
(179) cycylya says:

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August 20, 2013 at 4:45 am
(180) Erika says:

my boyfriend is going to have a arranged marriage but is living with me if his parents found out I don’t know what would happen I love him but he wont leave his parents what can I do ?

September 4, 2013 at 4:00 am
(181) RASHMI says:

what if … parents suggested you a guy and you then you get to spend tym with him .. know each other better and if all is gud then tie a knot … guys… now a days parents have also adjusted to the new world …. People say love marraige is better and alll .. but there are equal cases that husbands turn out to be devil after marriages … point is that love or arrange you are person to choose your partner ..so be wise ..open your eyes , bcz you are one to spend your lyf with

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September 7, 2013 at 2:41 pm
(183) riya says:

i keep a situation.. plz solve it..
i and my boyfriend both were best buddies but never knew when v started having feelings for more then a friend n finally now are in a relationship.. since both families are orthodox and will never agree for r marriage since both r from different caste but same religion. both of us new tat parents won’t be convinced but still coudn’t stop from falling for each other.. now my question is should we move on in r lives burying r feelings n love???

September 14, 2013 at 1:43 am
(184) cute eyes says:

I myself had an arranged marriage I was actually afraid 2 say every1 that I had an a arranged marriage then I realised by looking at friends that fell in love from school days now they have a lot of problems dnt know if they tired of each other or what makes them different. So I think its not whether its arranged or not it what u make of it cos I’m happily married 4 10 years now. And remember when u meet some1 u dnt know da back ground.

September 26, 2013 at 2:21 am
(185) SKS says:

So love or arrange hu

There is a saying that “in love marriage you marry your girlfriend but in arrange you marry other’s girl friend ” so the benefit of love marriage is justified , So those who are Engg. student or engg. please compare male student of M.E and C.SE, E.C,IT. or those working in manufacturing and those in I.T

you always encounter two different side of male one is robust, bold and living with no fear, some what unruly like a barbarian and on other side one is feared ,secured and emotional and dependent so second one is love , but life goes according to first one .

I am mech guy no girl from 25 yrs. my lifestyle is different then those who have one , i see lots of break up and patch up in my college times ,lots of emotional drama, lots of romeo Juliet and in last 90% break with each other for the sake of there family … there is nothing called love just an illusion see movie “pyaar ka panch nama ” and you will realize that single males are far more better then those who are in marriage or in relation ,at least i can drink beer , play call of duty and drive my car at 140 without any body restriction and this is awesome and further no more investment in silly shopping and dumping my weekends in malls for her ..so guys stay single ..

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(189) Jovian says:

@ riya (comment #183)
Ma’am, I think U should not leave the person U love. Cos in this ever increasing complicated dynamics of modern world, ‘love’ is the only emotion that has the power to resolve all conflicts & heal all pain. If today U realize ‘love’ it’s b’cos at some point in Ur life U’ve been touched by it. And the purest form is parental love for their children. So U’re not in conflict with Ur parents, but rather conflicting with the so called traditions, which are again not theirs. They are just the bearers of these traditions, which are centuries old and archaic. Through Ur act of moving ahead in life with Ur love, U are simply adding another dimension to their understanding of ‘love’, a dimension which was hitherto unknown to them. And who doesn’t fear the unknown? Hence their opposition.
And for second thoughts – when U have children who’ve grown up, would U be preaching them age-old traditions, or LOVE? If it’s LOVE, then why not start believing and following that path a generation earlier, i.e with Urself?

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November 14, 2013 at 10:58 am
(191) EAN english says:

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You have to deal with the fact that you’re living in a country where you have to settle with whatever your parents decide to give you, but you can also run away with your boyfriend to keep on with your feelings. However you need to be prepared for criticism and rejection.

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I advice you to go to another country with your boyfriend and never go back at all to your country. Forget about your parents, and about the caste and all the rules. The only thing that it really matters is the love that you and your boyfriend feel for each other. Follow your heart and enjoy the freedom.

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December 3, 2013 at 8:48 am
(193) Rena says:

I think ANY marriage is a gamble…you win or you loose.

December 3, 2013 at 10:03 am
(194) Sushila Karia says:

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I can proudly say that our marriage was arranged by our parents in 1965. Thank God! we still love each other as we did on the first afternoon of our engagement in November 2065,
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December 10, 2013 at 4:12 pm
(195) Parkash Menghwar says:

Marriage is a big decision of life so it is essential for both that they are agree then they can do but no loss on their families’ honour. I support to arrange marriage because in arrange no differences created in the families. And the funny thing is , true lover never married to each other like: Romeo Juliet, Laila Majnu, Heer Ranjha etc. They just want each others happiness but modern lover want to see their own pleasure while that is not acceptable at all.

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(196) Parkash Menghwar says:

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(197) Mandeep Saini says:

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January 23, 2014 at 5:49 am
(198) manjunath says:

I wanted a girl for marriage because I feel I am aged I loved very long ago she is in favour of me one day she got a very rich guy she left me and gone with him. So many years I suffered some type of pain why you left me what is wrong done to you. After so many years I realised she is back near to my place but what to do I don’t know it’s over more than 20 years what to do now. I don’t know.

January 24, 2014 at 7:34 am
(199) pratu says:

I really don’t understand, why parents have an object to love marriage….is CASTE more important then their childrens feelings… it is the two of them who ill get married and not parents,so if their children are not happy with their marriage then what is the point of arrange marriage???? it is their child who have to suffer from and not their parents!! why just they don’t understand!!! daamm with our culture,,,,,when two people are really in love with each other ….y does this EDIOTIC CASTE INTERRUPTS ???? WHY PARENTS THINK OF THE SOCIETY FIRST RATHER THEN THINKING OF THEIR CHILDS FEELINGS!!!! SOCIETY ALWAYS NEEDS A TOPIC TO DISCUSS, TO GOSSIP..Y JUST THEY DON’T UNDERTSTAND!!!!!

January 25, 2014 at 12:39 pm
(200) Mintu Ghatak says:

I have no comment on both love and arrange marriage. I just believe in some human qualities eg. honesty, simplicity, showing respect, caring, sacrifice, broad minded, helping etc. If the couple are beautifully equipped with these qualities, they will must be happy in life whether it is love marriage or arranged marriage. I am not actually a lover but looking for a sweet baby having such qualities. Would you plz help me ??

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(202) Satyawati Tiwari says:

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February 7, 2014 at 5:47 pm
(204) riz says:

I will accept all gudNess of arrange marriage but arrange marriage is a one of like project tht the parents are making 2 marry a girl very forecely. I’m also loving a one girl but the religion is different but v don’t bother about the religion .but now in a parents house thy know tht I am loving tht girl so much but tht girl mom told 2 him tht he father will decide a gud life partner and she told tht his father will give 1ly 2 rich person as a life partner 1ly but no one will give option 2 a love marriage ah…All decision r making by parents 1ly know .y tht parents will not allow 2 choose a life partner also ?

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(205) sabbi says:

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(206) prashant chauhan says:

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(207) GOURI says:

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March 19, 2014 at 1:23 pm
(208) jeenalshah says:

love marriage is best but that should be till life ends but if a boy and girl is in deep love then the same should be continued as soon as they get marriaed but if that is not there and due to some reasons if the boy changes and girl still loves boy then its realy a big pain to girl as girls dont forget his loved one easily if she sicerely loves the guy bcz i mainly the only the girl; who is facing the pain :( :( :( why cant boys deserve true love from girls

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