Love Marriage Vs Arranged Marriage

Those inconsistent people who dont have guts to make love and choose even their ‘life partner ‘ will always say arranged marriage is best!!!
ha ha ha

I personnaly feel that love marriages are much more beneficial in comparison to arranged but i also think that it is very difficult to predict the ideal sort of marriage. It is up to the individual to decide whether he wants to have a love or an arranged marriage.

I agree with Kapil Joshi. Its not about how much ‘guts’ you have. its about doing what will make you happy. many people around the world feel extremely priveliged to have a marriage arranged for them by a respected elder. if this is what they choose then good for them!

i vl always in the favor of love marriage bcos u spend ur whole wth ur partner not the parents bt the sugetion of parents r also must

love marriages are now a days becoming high in number but most of them are being collapsed because of lack of the meaning of love
on the other hand arranged marriages are being vanished but up to me these are the best because there is a chance of the parents who take care can involve and select a nice & suitable match.

The concept of love in marriage and the concept of the couple’s choice being agreeable to the families of all involved should not be mutually exclusive, as some would like to think. Both together make a successful marriage possible.

i respect wat u all said. but i feel arrange or love marrige both also will be successful if u r ready to be with dat.. if ur r the person who is kind, faithful,truthful,religious,loving husband o wife insha allahh u will get bright future.
thankyou..

hello i guess love marriage is much more better than arranged why?because what the arranged marriage has compromised alot in live of people you wouldnt have believed.most girls strangle themselves because of forcing them on marriage.parent should be surbordinate in selecting partner for their children.
i men it should be forbidden!!!!!!!!!
THANKS.

obviously love marraige is better than arranged.mostly for girls.u dont need to b bound with rituals & tradition.spouse can b free with each other.but firstly one have to realize is there true luv or infatuation btween them.then decide to tie knot.aranged is bakwas.bulls***t

Love marriage is better. As in Mahabharata, people like Lord Krishna, Arjuna had love marriage. On the other hand, Rukmini, Subhadra were about to force to marry the person whom their father/brother had looked for them. This proves love marriage is more advisable than arranged. So the supporter of Hinduism must clean their minds in favor of love marriage and encourage it.
As Raja mentioned only the weaker people who are still not dependent on parents or have no taste of their own prefer arranged marriage.

i think love marriage is not bed if your lover is 100% true.with u, if it’s just afection, then it will be unsucessful, and if both are loving each other with honestly then they should marriage with each other and consider their defaults and + points,and share with each- other ,then they will be supereb couple in univercel… they will always happy and joy ther life..it’s true.. but i am come at family metter, then u should give trully all matter front of family and wait for “yes” by parents, as u know parents have a soft corner, they will agry..

It is not one or the other if you have some traditional selection process such as same socioeconomic, education and religious background will make your future life in love marraige stronger. It is not that parents selected or individual selected is better. Most marraiges fail in later life, when the other things become more important in your life such as raising kids with values and Social obligations.

wht i believe…India is a male dominant country wether we agree or not..and success rate of marriage in india is high as compare 2 foreign…because man says and women listens..but situation has chaged.we women r well educated..professional qualified and independent..no 1 wants 2 compromise..so be it arrange or a love marriage irs always better 2 benda bit then break…and marriage dnt break bcoz we have 2 raise kids with values or of social obligation…its a beautiful way of survival and statying tune and warmth in relationship

If marriage is decided in heaven, why there is a debate over love marriage vs arranged marriage? Don’t the couple that is meant to be together will be together no matter what type of marriage they undergo?

Since marriage is dacided in heaven, don’t 2 people who are meant to be with each other will be married no matter what type of marriage they undergo?

I think Love marrige is the best if you are really satisfied and commited to your partner.It needs alot of understanding and consistency.
Whereas arranged one is good if you are not in love with any one..arrangeed is waht indias tradition..

i completely agree wth pandu’s if u have a true meaning of love in ur relationship then it can be happily lasts longer…

Love marriage in most cases is based on infatuation which later results in frustartion. One become so selfish when it comes to love marriage that one disregards parents wish and choices. One starts claiming that its my life and i will leave it the way I want without bothering that when you were 3-4 yrs old even then it was your life,but your parents were taking care of it.
So, simple thing is always take your parents in confidence if you are liking someone and thereby avoiding any resentment.

marriages r based on love ,care , time ,faith ,comprimises ….its not about lov or arrange but its about your attitude towards life ….. But i must say love marriage is better in love marriage have strong bond as compare to arrange ….

I THINK ARRANGE MARRIGES are better than love ,because it is not the question of guts but it is question life you may have a guts to set a girl and to love but when the question of guts come you are over confident that you are with right girl. to find right girl for whole life is so tough annd i think that our parents has sen there whole life and they select the girl by watching you and the girl characteristics do they match or not as your teacher know that which question you can solve and which not
so just to belive on parents is good for our whole life

Personally, I’d vote for arranged marriges because, where a “love marrige” is based on passioon and lust and romantics, those in an arranged marrige build their relationship on respect, friendship and companionship, which, is a stronger love than sex and roses if you ask me. I say this as a member of Western sociaty too. The divorce rate of “love marrige” is much much higher than arranged marriges too, so, was their really much love? Arranged marriges are about more than just two people aswell, it’s about two families, so, surly the family should have a strong say in the other family right? I’d rather spend eternity with a friend than someone I think I love, but will probably end up divorcing. Friendship is much stronger, and lasts a lot longer. =)

How many of the youngsters know the meaning of LOVE. Just you liked a person, spend some time with him/her, enjoyed the company and decided to get marry. Specially in India how many childrens have guts to convince their family. And what, when the parents reject the relationship (most probably because of cast/religion/status) , the boy or girl suddenly gets ready to ditch one another when there parents force them. Doesn’t such kind of people knows what kind of family they had been living with from so many years and what are there likes and dislikes. How can they blame the society when they don’t know there closest ones. Its better you leave all this on your parents or forget them. You will have to do justice with one or the other.

I believe love marriage to be better than an arranged one. My marriage was arranged and from the very beginning I knew we are not compatible but everyone around always tried to ensure that things will go fine after a certain period of time. Now when we are together we hardly talk. We dont feel comfortable sharing views, thoughts or even simple wishes to each other. Some times it seems that I am sleeping with a complete stranger.
My younger brother is going in for a love marriage and I have always seen him happy and full with energy. They communicate with each other so much that the amount of info they would share in a day we hardly share it in a month.
At times I am jealous of him. But nothing can be done.
I would say marry the person who loves you. This seems rediculous but it really pays later

Arranged Marriages are offers Security for women since they have their family backup.
Love marriages provide freedom and More independence.sine the boy and girl know each other

The solution from my point of view for all the issues stated here is the open communication regardless of whether it is arranged or love marriage. Afterall everyone of us has got their own strengths and weeknesses and that is why we need another person in our life to complement. It is in your hand to make your life bitter or sweeter after the elders have done their job. The couple should think of them as a team working towards one single goal.

This doesn’t mean that love marriage is better. If the open communication doesn’t exist between the couple after marriage, they will feel that their love life was different (better) than their marriage life. Believe me this I have seen in many couples. Love marriage could be in many cases worser than arranged marriage.

Finding a perfect match is the base 4 a successful marriage………
people should understand and accept that it doesnt matter who finds him/her first!!!!!

even now a days the boy and the girl are asked before they get married for their consent in the arrange marriage.so it shows that parent choose the girl which their son or daughter liked. the same is happening in the love marriage except you had choosed him/her without your parents concern. what will happen if all the partner selected by your parents are disliked by you? males are dominant over female by insist not by the societal rule. he may not wish to dominate his lover but it may create a conflictory situation within him.
so forget about arrange or love .if it is arranged then love it or if it is love then make it arranged. just live happily

love marred is can b done but there must b the a part of earning in between the both and in colleges its fun in both of them its a part of time pass but when it comes in true life a it takes a painful turn in colleges it haves a physical attraction i like u, u like me on the pocket money of parents , if parents oppose it in any way for marrege then u must marry it dosent mean u waste ur time 4 year in college and then u must do merrage if u have guts in u life is not a time pass to waste time soo think about it god bless u ……….

love marriages are scrap!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Arranged marriage is better than love marriage.

the thing is hw beautiful the girl or boy is externally as well as internally which make the marriage alive for long time.
secondly the security of job.

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Today sociaty is changing. Boys and girls today in sociaty do not bother about what there parents capabilities are. Just imagine the position of parents of middle class when his son or daughter ask for such things which are not possible for them. I am here to say a complete different story. Parents always want to fulfil each and every demand of there son or daughter. But when it comes a question of mirrage (some stupid one of them forget the sufferings of there parents). The simple thing they say is” Its our life.” Some one rightly said here that when you were 3 or 4 years then also it was your life. And if you are not earnig well or setteled well in life. Then also you should think it is your life. Parents never think any thing bad in there childern life. Finally I would like to make a conclusion that if you deside a love mirrage try to convience your parents. If parent of both side agree then only go ahead. Otherwise say bye bye…… to love mirrage or go to hell(which is the final destination of most of the so called LOVERSSSSSS).

I think love come arranged is always best. But even an arranged marriage, with the acceptance of both the bride and groom in question, would work well if they have a chance to meet and basically date each other for a couple of months or so before making the final decision. It really depends on what works for you and there is no “RIGHT”/”WRONG” choice.

An arranged marriage is the best for spiritual upliftment of an individual. Being a hindu, i support arrange marriages. If you read the Hindu scriptures,and especially The Gita, Krishna makes a point to Arjua on this…yada yada karmam tada tada jananam. What were steps we take to quench our physcial and materialistic desires as a consequential effect on our spritual consciousness. Even our ancestors may not accept if we move out of our community- the pitra dosha has strong impact on the progeny of one’s family.– Better to chose your partner taking the advice of an elder within the family.
Opinions may differ- people may argue we are in the 21st century and still i am old fashioned. but i think time we retune our thinking to alter our self towards a spiritual upliftment.

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Love marriage is mostly based on infatuation and results in frustration. I most cases i have seen love marriage results in breakup after marriage. High expectation and ego between the couple results in breakup. So arrange marriage is better. But here love is all about union of two soul. Only after marriage we are able to understand the true meaning of love. Self respect between the two is the important thing for a successful marriage life.

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Pradip Datta

Arrange Marriage & Love Marriage..are time and background are strongest better….so “good Blees”

judge the person in the act of normal circumstances… that is all matters….

For all the one for arrange marriages I would like to share the discussion of two illeterate fellow passengers on a suburban local train in Mumbai which is an excellent suggestion -

“90% of the time the problem starts in a arranged marriage because of the relation strains between the mother-in-law and the bride, so why do we match the horoscope of the boy and the girl, rather it should be that of the girl and would be mother-in-law”

In a love marriage all the ‘s’excitement seems to fizzle out with marriage, after that the story is not much different whether it is love marriage or arranged marriage.

I am for arranged marriage, May God bless all those who go for love marriage too.

Dipressed,

It makes my heart ache to read your post. I hope things work out for you. If you want to talk please email me.

As an American, I am intrigued by arranged marriages. I wish my parents would have invested enough in me to care about my partner. They do not care at all. I love my husband dearly and I am glad we are together and I wouldn’t change a thing. I just wish my parents cared deeply for me like so many Hindu families do for their children.

When you accept your partner for who they are and admire their good qualities, any type of marriage will be harmonious. =)

I prefer love marriage to arranged marriage. Its a matter of entire life. In love marriage at least you know the person , his habits, his strength and weakness , have an idea about his/her family whereas in arranged everything is new.. you spent most of the time knowing the person… unfolding new secrets..
Of course every marriage needs adjustments… but it shouldn’t be a compromise ..

The Original ancient practice in India was “Swayam Var” meaning that the girl has a right of choice to choose her husband.References to swayamvar abound in our scriptures & religious texts. One of the most prominent one’s being Sita’s marriage to Rama.
Over time that practice changed and slowly the practice of “parents arranging the marriage of their children” became prevalent . Even in this, the views of the bride & groom were paramount. This practice too over time has been eroded and the western viewpoint of “arranged marriage” has become common currency.
The bottom line is EVERY MARRIAGE is a social event and so HAS TO BE ARRANGED…arranged by whom is not important.
Also EVERY MARRIAGE has to have LOVE in it….whether that love happens before or after is a matter of chance.
Most western so called “love marriages” are just an excuse to have sex before marriage.Once the lust dies down so does the marriage….the very high rate of divorce in the west is testimony of this

Mere vichaar me vivah sada saman vayakation evam apne kul or jati parampara ke anusaar hi hona chahiye. Apni jati ke hi stri purush aapas me ek dusare ki bhavnao, ichaon evam parivarik paramparaon ko gehenta se samajh sakte hai. Antar jaatiya vivah pratha ko maanav swasthya ke liye vaigyanikon ne bhi haanikarak mana hai. Swayamvar vidhi se bhi jin kanyaon ke vivah hue hai( SITA, DAMAYANTI, DRAUPADI AADI) ve bhi jeevan bhar dukhi hi rahi.

I am a proud Hindu and as a 24 year old, have seen and expirienced life….and I say no marriage is rational.
Stop getting married people.

1. It is correct love marriage is always better then arrange, and you can make it best if you go for love with arrange. I know it is difficult to convince you parents for this and very difficult if it is inter-caste but if you have a positive attitude and true love and your parents also truly love then definitely they will agree for this. And if it happens, you will be a very lucky guy of the world………..All the best to those who believe in love

love or arranged marraige wat ever it is …
it is based on d kind of person v r gifted and d love v show for them wil fix our life :p

arrganed are the best

“marriage is an act of love between two person that no one is accountable on it except two people who loved each other without the concerned of others ‘a love which end to bows from life til death to God.therefore thats Is called “Love Marriage”

both are ok on there side.
it depends on the two persons understandings.,respect for each others family and caring for your love partner.

Yogesh i really love you will you please marry me. I want you to give me happiness in life and we can go through college together. And then waste our parents pocket money. It is a paragrapgh atraction. GOD BLESS YOU! And may he fill your life with spagehttie

I believe that parents are always there to think/pray best for the child but no parents could teach their child to fall in love and adore one person madly through out his/her life. Its upto the child whom he/ she will want as a life partner and define their own love…….. So i will be always supporting a love marriage. If parets are really concerned about their child then they should be happy in what their child is so but no offence for those who preffer “Arranged Marriage”…. But one question for them Are your parents gonna stay with your spouse for a lifetime?

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I am actually spoiling my life, caught between this love and arranged…
I started reading this to look for an answer and guys, you have confused me more.
She says, marry or F off, ..parents say, r u sure, if u do so, we will lose all our dignity n all
(((((((

In my opinion love marriage is much better than arranged marriages coz in luv marriage we know the person much better.we r aware of his/her strengths and weaknesses.they get ample time to explore both the gud and bad things about each other,wel before marriage.This helps them to develop good comfort level after marriage,very effotlessely

i think arrange marriage is better than love marriage because a “love marrige” is based on passioon and lust and romantics, those in an arranged marrige build their relationship on respect, friendship and companionship, which, is a stronger love than sex and roses if you ask me.
plz ask this question to your parents and they will suggest you better bcoz they live thier whole life, 99% people not knows the meaning of love. love has short life in this case. plz ask sombody who have done love marriage. it’s easy to say that “i love you and marry with you” but very difficult to complete the sentence.

“don’t do love marraige it’s not the matter of choice it’s matter of life and life partener and whole family”

I don’t know about marriage life bcoz i’m single now, but i want to spend rest of my life with my girl.. If i miss my love i can’t get from anyone else in this world.. So DON’T MISS UR GIRL FOR ANYTHING, SHE S PRECIOUS……… MISS U VEENA……

This comment is for those people who are like love marriage.
You don’t think about your parents.
your parents can plan your marriage & you have to destory their dreams & plan to do a love marriage.
Who gave you the rights to heart your parents. I am totaly faver in arrange marriage.

I got married (arrange) in 2008…the only thing i don’t like in arrange marriage is that u don’t know the life partner’s Nature & Lifestyle in DEEPLY….

Nowadays people forgets to realize wheather is there true luv or infatuation btween them. People those who dont have guts to make love and choose even their ‘life partner ‘ will always say arranged marriage is best. I personnaly feel that love marriages are much more beneficial in comparing arranged marriage. arranged marriage do not have compromise and leads to divorce. Most of the people commits sucide because of forcing them on marriage. parent should be favourable in selecting partner for their children. In love marriage u dont need to be bound with rituals & tradition. We will feel free to share our thoughts with our spouse.

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Arranged marriage is best and also love marriage is better when arrange after love with agree with two family.

i fell love marriage is not the best option bcoz true love very rarely exist so its better to go for arrange marriage and let the love happen, i would love to go for love marriage but true love is not easily available today girls flirt more than boys thay play with their hearts so its better to be safe than sorry

Love can be true love or fake love… Love can be sincere or blind, love can be between souls and between bodies.. The former is always lasting, latter disastrous.. So… If true love is found, congrats. else, grave can alone save u…

i think love marriage is better then arranged marriage becasue you can find the perfect loving and caring person for you and you dont wanna end up with some random that you never know what they could do to you. there is alot of reasons why i wouldnt do it and why i would choose love marrige over arranged marriages…

Love marriage is suicide and arranaged marriage is homicide. in Love marriage, love is there before and not after marriage.just a physical attractions only. most of the people make wrong decisions, because of immaturity and hormonal imbalances

arraing marraige is better

Arrange marriage is far better.. arrange marriage is not force marriage.here parents chooses perfect boy/girl for their children. the way its too better because we can use the experience of our parents.so chances r few that our spouse wl be bad in nature. in young age we don’t have the ability to decide who is better for us.then why not to leave the decision on our parents?they after all love us, want our good. they wl not ruin our life.what we should check is the compatibility with our partners before marriage then i think no problem will come. and life wl be a smooth,happy journey

Hello friend ,if u r love to each other so the firstly love after that the arranged

Love or arranged marriage is not generalised.it depends on the individuals lifestyle,attitude and response to the life/ problems arising out of marriage.if u really wants to be in love with the person u got married u will never leave ur partner. most love marriages are becoming unsuccessful because of lack of support of parents because they feel responsible only for what they have done.getting married to children is not a responsibility but giving them a successful life with support and love.

Hi All,

I think whether arranged or love marriage, the important thing is how well you know the person with whom you have to live your life.
Love marriage – well love is beautiful and last long only if there is a perfect and total understanding between the two.
Arranged marriage -It takes pretty much good amount of time to know your better half BETTER so by that time you ARE INTO IT, there is no thought of stepping back, its all set to move forward.
And I prefer Love + Arranged so that I know the person better and i have my parents with me ALWAYS!!!!!!!!!!!!

Now , i totally believe in LOVE marriage . But whom i love believes in arrange marriage . I am not against arrange marriage because if i cant get her , i also should go for arrange marriage . But as per me , Benifit of LOVE marriage is UNDERSTANDING between both partner . My partner says , she has cousin who divorsed after LOVE marriage . Now this is most silliest reason ever i got , against LOVE marrige . I know people who got divorced after arrange marriage as well . ITS ON BOTH PARTNER TO SUCCESS THEIR MARRIAGE LIFE .

I know only one thing if U love some one U automatically pomp up with a zeal to convene the people and UR parents Too.

Love marriages are best no doubts But you have to convence UR parents not only for U but also for UR partner too as he already give up her family just for U and need Ur family off course..

So…Do Love Marriage but Love Family too….!!!!

Arranged marriages should have gone the way of fountain pens and horse drawn carriages. They are all about maintaining gender inequality. Shame on those who advocate it and pity for the young ones who are ‘forced’ into it !

I think …… both are good… but now daz it seems like dat ki .. love marriage is better coz. both th couple knoe each other very well n know to treat other………. but wi can’t guaranteed dat love marriage is long lastingg 1. it can be break down any time. due to missunderstandings.. so think deeply n decide which 1 is better

Advantages of Arranged Marriage

Here are some of the advantages of arranged marriage – A tongue in cheek comment

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arranged marriage with love is much better!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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arranged marriage with love is much better!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

love marriages r best yaar.. we have 2 spend our whole life with our dearest life partner.. not with our parents..parents should understand the love of their children:)

First thing, Since marriage is decided in heaven, don’t 2 people who are meant to be with each other will be married no matter what type of marriage they undergo?

2nd thing the boy/girl can not find a partner they will say arrange marriage is better. I have seen so many people who were searching for a girl but if they will not get success then they will say arrange marriage is better. I will obey my parents, this kind of thing.

So i think marriage depends on situation and obviously it is decided in heaven. So no matter it is love or arrange.

i love ; love marrig

Love IS LIFE,,,,,,,,,,,,NO LOVE ,,,NO,,LIFE,.,.////END OF LIFE.,.,.,,.,

love marraige is give the partner of thier own choose and arrnaged marriaged give the partner give their parents to them

As this debate is not new. Here someone is saying arrange marriage is good and some others are saying love marriage is good.
but i thing both are good and bad. both may collapse and both may make thier life heaven. This is possible only with the simple word i.e. Commitment.

If you don’t have this in your marriage life then no one can help you.

I strongly believe in arrange marriage its not about falling in love
but growing in love. Mine was an arrange marriage n married for 31 years good or bad. I say we have to work hard to bear the fruit.

Second wife in the same marriage is wrong.

To hell with arranged marriages, they are surviving because of the social taboo attached with divorce. 90% of arranged marriages are surviving because in almost every case the wife is dependent upon her husband and lack of support from parental family and from her own friends. Arranged marriage system must be eradicated for the benefit of humanity

Marriage is always an AGREEMENT or arrangement that makes the rules about power. Arranged marriages have the problem that the couples don´t have the possibilities to decide about their lives. They are always dependent about what their families would decide, because they have made the arrangement also the monetary one. So it is about POWER use, or abuse. Young people must have support and advice from their families, not impositions. I understand that is very difficult for young people in families strongly hierarchical, and more difficult in a society that is very male chauvinistic.

Life is a challenge for all – living a healthy life is becoming rare with all kinds of diseases. In this a compatible partner through arranged marriage which considers different factors, ensures many problems are avoidable while getting the co-operation of all. It spreads happiness and positive energy and makes one better prepared to face the day to day challenges as there is love, respect, approval from elders, help from family and an extension of the family

I think that love marriages and arrange marriages are both equal in my view. Nowadays there are so many divorces because women are NOW working and can support themselves therefore they are not staying and suffering in bad relationships. Most arrange marriages long ago only the husbands was working whereas the wives took care of the home and children. Wives couldn’t give their opinions about anything, they were not treated like equal partners BUT like slaves and nobodies. Certainly the divorces were less because where would they go with no jobs to mantain themselves. They all stayed and suffered silently because they couldn’t do any better. I asked a few women why they’d stayed in bad relationships. They all said we were not working to mantain ourselves and couldn’t return to live comfortably in our parents home. We had to stay especially when we had our children, where could we go with 3 or 4 children. Those same women said if they had jobs and could have afforded to take care of their children and themselves they wouldn’t have stayed in those relationships. They said that they stayed and took all the abuses, emotionally, physically and mentally.

to know yourself is great, to love yourself is greater! If you let love guide you…there is no need for marriage…that way everyone must stand independent, educated and wise on their own feet. Ultimate bliss is to let love flow freely!

What about remaining happily unmarried? Love or arranged, don’t forget this: “It’s an agreement where a man loses his bachelor’s degree and a woman gains her master’s!”

I am in love with girl. she loves me very much. and i love my family more. i am between the love and the cast. What can i do?

LOVE IS GREAT

Hi friends,

I feel that though it is love marriage or arranged one, if u wouldn’t belive each other that marriage will not stay for long life.
I feel sacrificing for each other is the best love & it never ends

Hi !!!
I think Love marriage is the best way.
But the couple must have a Deep Love and Compromise to each other.
Hers the Boy/girl have to think that if his/her lover is perfect for him/her or not ?
In arrange marriage the bride and the groom do not know each other deeply. There may be some past of both of them which were not shared between them before marriage. After marry when any one of them come to know the Past, it makes difficult to make a happy married life.

love marriage is as better as arrange marriage

Our life is in GOD’s hand..so leave our life 2 him,he wil lookaftr u.. MAY GOD BLESS U ALL…

IT’S NOT DEPENDENTS UPON SOME ONE HAVE A AFFECTION OR ATTRACTION! A MAN NEED TO LOVE THE SOUL OF WOMEN TO SHARE THE PERSONAL WITH OUT ANY HESTATION! NOW A DAYS IDOIT MAN AND THEIR PARENTS PREFFERED THE ARRANGE MARRAIGE ONLY FOR THE FINANCIAL BACKGROUND AND THEY DEMAND THE MONEY WITH BEAUTY, IF IT IS CALLED ARRANGE MARRAIGE MEANS THERE IS A ANOTHER WORD “PARENTS WELCOMES HER DAUGHTER WITH OTHER MEN FOR PROSTUTION”. LOVE NEEDS TO COMPORMISE WITH SOUL, NOT WITH MONEY AND STATUS OF EDUCATION WITH OTHER BACKGROUND!! MAY GOD BLESS EVERY WOMEN AND MEN WITH LOVE NOT DEMANDING THE MONEY FOR MARRIAGE’S!!

its nice to see some like minded comments in todays world where people blindly go behind love just for the fun or for the fantasy of being in it…and later ditch it due to family obligations…you’ve not fallen from outer space to tell its my life my choice…respect wat ur parents tell and share ur views too…they are not ur enemies and they are definitely more valuable than your fantasy girl/boy (lover) …u can be nice life partner if look into d goods of ur better half….

and if u observe all the comments carefully u’ll find out dat the number of people supporting love marriages are more but people who are supporting arranged marriages have more stronger solid and valid reasons to support their stand….matured thinkers support arranged marriages…

love marraige is give the partner of
thier own choose and arrnaged
marriaged give the partner give their
parents to them

Hi friend,
I am Dibyanarayan Hazra. I am support Love Marriage. I will give all reason.But first i want say some thing.
In INDIA Parents always think about their child love. If someone falls in love it will punishable in home. It is not true.Real example one of my friends falls in love with good moral girl. He told his parents then his parents refuse his prayer and rusticate from home. Parents do not give money to him, he loss his carrier object. He can not keep “Hons”. So he first loose his education. He may be a great person so India loss one new star. In that way so many student got stacked.

Now another one mentality ,
One of my senior falls in love then he talk with his parents again refused by parents without knowing the girl. After two years someone parents start to see girl for their son. Son said “Whom I want I can not get her according to you so whatever you choose i will accept” to his mother. Then they start to find and finalize one girl then one copy of picture gave to his son. He is shocked that it is that girl who is loved by him. After the marriage he said to his parents she is this girl whom I want. It is real so now what you say about this type of family.

Now I am for in love marriage.
1> We should know each other before marriage.
2> A girl or a boy can do acting for three or five days not for long time. So when parents went to see him or her then he or she becomes good one.
3> If a boy and a girl is not perfect to each other then after marriage divorce is must.
4> Marriage is done between two people so decision should take by two people.

That’s why I support LOVE MARRIAGE.

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I’m not from India but I met a brahmin guy at work. We fall in love and we were together for some years, he traveled to India and he talked to his family about me but they didn’t aceptme and now we are not in contact. I’m devastated and I know he was the real love for me. Probably I didn’t born in your country or any caste vut it doesn’t mean I can be a bad human. Unfortunately I didn’t have. Any opportunity, his family never knew me as I live in a latin country..
For obvius reasons a always will go on love marriage of true love!. In the country I belong to is true some people divorce but there are also thousand couples continue together for years and until death, even in my religion catholic the marriage is a sacrament and it says that you should support and love your partner in all circunsatances, in abundance and difficult moment in health and sickness until death take you apart from each other, what God has blessed the man could never take apart.
The reason because we should marry some one is only for love nd high comitment with your partner nd yourself that will make your relationship work well with love, respect, understanding, comunucation, honestly, and support to reach your own objectives and your partner objectives as a couple as one.
I think commitment, respect, honestly, faith and trust in your partner with a good comunication is a key in all kind of marriage around the world! If you really love your partner all these feeling will come and you will do everything to make your relationship continue for all life!
I’m extremly sad and devastated I really love him and I can’t understand why I couldn’t have any opportunity only bcse probably I was not lucky enough to bor in India!
A person soul should be more important that any social or economic interest or caste rules. All of us are human and we should tret everybody as equal with respect giving same opportunities…
Am I different or unworthy only bcse I born in a diff country?

Haye guyz,,,

I prefer to arrange marriage because our parents are educated religious thay can chose better for us ………

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for those who said love marriage is based on infatuation and passion and arranged marriage on respect,companionship and friendship,i must say that that does not mean that there is no lust for arranged marriage couple or no respect or friendship among love married couples.those who marry on the basis of love do so because they have known each other for a while,they might have been in the same educational institute or working environment or may have pursued same type of interests.so its very likely that they have had many things in common or they have known each other for a while.i personally feel that this way the boy and girl can involve into more meaninful,respectable,friendly,and joyous relation.on the other hand,arranged marriage is like exploring the other one,there is also lack of sharing and understanding before marriage which makes it a matter of chance and destiny.if you get a good match thats good luck….what if its not a good match.at least if the same thing happens with love marriage ,its wont be that painful or worthless coz u still have some good times of sharing before marriage when things worked out and guided to marriage.so from all perspectives,i would personally say marry on the basis of mutual love ,affection,and commitment,instead of weighing or making some value judgements on the basis of looks,status,income potential,and selecting and rejecting individuals on the basis of that.love rulllllllllzzzzzzzz.and so does love marriage.

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hi frnds i will suggest u go for arrange marriage bcoz its nt only about us its about our family our culture our family acpection sm people says in love marriage u can know about ur partner his /her choices nd about everything but that all thing we can handle easily after marriage also but if we will go without our family then we know very well how many hearts we will break to make only two hearts so depend u guys

Frnds..just want to mention living with anyone frnds,parents,colleagues etc needs adjustments. there would have been many situations where we were upset with our parents but did the love flew away.no we still respect them their feelings. have open free space to share.If you have same feelings with ur partener what stops you then. If you respect and feeling being respected. If you feel free to share and are always there to share. In my perception you are good to go.For me arranged marriages are like lottery tickets with 80% chances of success.
If you have to adjust in life why not before marriage.At least you know and are sure that you have found someone who understands you and ready to bend.I just hope noone falls in that remaining 20 % zone because if you find someone how is so adament and least interested to adjust then the relation is in soup.

Ummm… I ‘m kinda doing this debate with my claz mates on arranged vs love marraiges… I’m on luv marraige side…& i don’t know what 2 tell and how 2 debate with facts…Can anyone out there help me? :p

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Acc to Both type of marriages are good if there is a understanding in between but if you guyz see the rate of divorse is incresing beacause people marry each other by seeing love only there is always a gap of understanding.

Here i cannot say love marriage is different n arrange marriage ,because in every relation is bound with love only ,without having love we cannot go throug ,first we must have to b free with our spouse,nd if u really want pure love from otherside person/ur lover ,first u give that love to him automatically he/she will gets change,n moreover u must give the confidence to ur dearer that “u r there for him/her forever at the peak of ur death”, that promise really get change ur life do try .”if ur mind is really fixed about any relation u will be having happy in any relatn”

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Love Marriage isn’t our tradition, if those guys couples thought that love marriage is really good it means that they should live in foreign because this is western culture, love marriage neither good nor bad for our society, we should obey our parent’s if they don’t have any problems to do this love marriage so we can, because first our parents then our lover so we should give priority to our parent not our lover, love is infatuation and i just want to say one thing for my all Indian people’s don’t behave like that manner lest you should repent after some time……..because there are many elopement cases registered these day in India so be aware about this……..:-)

I am love marrege person and verry happy with wife. my wife also alote loved me.but some time i think love marrege with our all femily accept them then it is too better.but if any couse our famely will not assecpet them then it is not good for our life.(compermise is not for holl life),whenever you both too love eachother.
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what a funny… a parents taught her daughter not talk or contact with strange persons but suddenly they forced her to sleep with strange.how it can be possible to give our whole and precious life to a unknown person and how much it is right. arrange marriage is nothing but a lottery that totally depends on luck what we will get or what we will lose no one knows before it happens.its nothing but a funny game.self choice is much better for marriage..

My openion both arrange and love have equal importance.. for a good future we need an arrange marrage for satisfying our respected parents.. and for self satisfaction we need to love also.. so firstof all we have to give authority to choose a girl/boy to our parents , then we want to spend some days or months or few years with him/ her as a lover, then analyse the whole character and family background of him/ her. then we have to decide he/ she is perfect/ notperfect in our life……

love marriage very happy and enjoy our self that’s why i support love marriage

i love love with arranged marriage……………………………………………………

Hi Mr. Dibyanarayan Hazra,
I’ll like to say one thing about your senior friend and his marriage. His marriage was blessed and made in heaven for sure. Imagine his parents didn’t want him to marry his girlfriend without even knowing who she was. He then told his Mom that he will marry the girl of their choice. It is truly amazing that their choice of girl happened to be his girlfriend. How wonderful! I wish them the best in life. As I’m typing this I’m thinking this is a very good story for an Indian movie. Thanks for sharing your friend story with us. God bless!

before saying which is best, I can see so many of you leading a unhappy life with partners selected by a third person (parents become 3rd person when coming to an individual’s life)- so many of you saying Hinduism preaches arrange marriage- those of you don’t know Life- Hinduism for ur info, preaches the most modern ethics always- if u r accepting someone without any personal interest in an arranged marriage, you can know what it means. and it is a Sin.
it is your life to decide- the chance is yours- you choose between love and arranged- but don let anyone make the final decision on you and thus giving them a chance to live your life- there are few things you should never give others- ur socks, ur footwear, ur dresses and the choice of your life. Wake up. You have only 1 chance to live- how to do it- YOU DECIDE.

Shakthi also says-
Don choose a life considering others’ happiness, content- then you will feel none of these in your life- anyone who forces you an option that you don like, can never do any good to you.
also, people giving you options cannot feel your pain of an unhappy life.
Try explaining things a hundred times, thousand times.
When they still dont understand, just pity them and take a call because this is YOUR LIFE.

frieds love marriage is best coz known devil is better than unknown ghoast

frieds love marriage is best coz known devil is better than unknown ghoast

frieds love marriage is best coz known devil is better than unknown ghoast

i think arrange mrg is more powerful than the love mrg in all the way in all conditions bcz the couple knw exactly what is he/she is always after marriage when they live together with a family then they knw each others personal habits which they dnt before mrg and if the partner likes then the marriage is subsist otherwise divorce but in arrange marriage they both are new in a relationshp and they wanted to knw each other even a smallest thing of partner and than they starting to love each other and this love doesnt demand break up if u not beleive in my words then see ur parents or grandparents love towards eachother a

Love marriage is mostly based on infatuation and results in frustration.that is true.In this world our parents only take care all about our life since childhoold.They always select a good choice.so arrange marriage is give a successful life and happyness for all.

the best marriage is the ARRANGE THE LOVE IN MARRIAGE.

love is just for romance so you need to observe first arrang merrge fixed high like long year periob no problems where as love merrage just for attractions

Every human has different thinking for Love as every person is different from one another., some are good people and some are bad… To make Love, agreement of two heart is enough,… but for a good relationship both families should understand…… Love can keep only a couple happy but cannot keep both families happy and together. Every body knows internally but never disclose…… No human is perfect in this world so no human can be a good lover…. even a single lie between a couple is a solid proof of imperfect love…. Especially ladies make the problems after marriages making their partner lie.. and this is universal truth and even ladies know this…. This is my suggestion to ladies… /////”Please Love your beloved once, if you are loved by him… otherwise you will destroy your partners life, both on earth and after death, dont make your partner lie to you”/////

one single life is not enough to understand LOVE,….. LOVE before marriage will reduce after marriage….LOVE before marriage is something you lose internally not knowing…. Life is too short,.. to have a better, peaceful and happy life… dont marry a partner if there exists a conflict between two paartners…. coz conflicts cannot be solved once raised….. Your parents can select you a better pair…. No women can say that her husband is perfect, as women cannot be satisfied by anything or anyone…. If you gift a ring she will ask for bangles too… If you gift a bangles she will ask for necklace…. its like dil mange more… so one cannot keep a women happy as women is full of desires…. Good women is one who can keep his man happy unless a man is the best one…… So guys dont simply listen to heart… heart cannot make decisions…. Think from the top…. all the best….. only few words are not enough to expalin about love…..

Human cannot understand what LOVE and so human cannot LOVE…… LOVE can be only between GOD and the living beings on earth……

I am not a failure in LOVE but I am writing what I experienced…. I respect LOVE…. LOVE is not success unless you respect LOVE…. unless you obey LOVE…. unless you love your LOVE…. LOVE is perfect only if the minds and hearts are clear…… so try to keep your minds and heart clear….. If a women is not good, then dont just get irritated, try to change her with LOVE and if you cannot change then you are not a perfect lover….. in LOVE everything should be with LOVE…. please LOVE with rules of LOVE and if you cannot then just dont LOVE….. Protect your LOVE without watching or talking or moving out with your LOVE before marriage… This will generate Sexual affection…. and Sexual affection cannot be a LOVE…. If sexual affection raises then you will get anger if the partner doesnt come on date…. dont make LOVE a bitch….. dont remove the cloths of LOVE…. please respect LOVE…. if you cant LOVE then dont give the relation name of LOVE

I’m a female of age 24. I am for Love marriage because in love marriage you will get to know the person before you marry him/her. In arrange marriage you marry a complete strange and how can you sleep with someone for whom you feel nothing for?? isn’t that a pure lust??? Having sex on the first night with someone you married after arrange marriage is more of “one night stand” than making love.

Well, love is NOT about sex!! You get to know the person, you share your joys, sorrows, happiness, experiences, cuddles, jokes and going wild without trying to be someone else. However in arranged you can’t be yourself, you are always trying to unfold the mystery of the other person!

Another reason, i am going for love marriage is that i have seen so many failed arrange marriages in my family, relatives and friends. The examples include:

1. My parents marriage was arranged and they never go along with each other. My father always claimed to be the dominant one over mum all bcoz mum was less educated. Secondly, he did beat her up at time, swore at her! That was an arrange marriage!

2. Uncle left 8 month pregnant auntie just for his family back in India! That was an arranged marriage!

3. This family friend, he would beat her wife each day, he was having an affair with some woman outside! He kept forcing his wife to have children till they finally had a son! this was an arrange marriage!

4. My grandparents: grandpa always tried ruling over grandma,, just bcoz she is a woman!

there are many other examples of arrange marriages i can write here but all i want to say that, in love marriage you don’t have to be stuck to the person. If it doesn’t work out, so it doesn’t. But respect is the most important thing in a relationship which i have not seen in arrange marriages! thats y i am towards Love marriage!!!

according 2 me ARRANGE marriage is better than the LOVE marriage because SEX life have to be done so there nothing is interested THAT’S WHY

@ rahul – r u rahhul agrawal?

i am support to arrange marriage .

HAI,

i AM SUPPORT TO ARRANGE MARRIGE ,LOVE IS ONLY PERSENT TENSE ,BECAUSE FORGET THE THE FUTRE TENSE,THAT EDUCATION AND FAMILY BACKGROUND SO PARENTS NOT SUPPORT THE MARRIAGE. LOVE MARRIGE IS NOT SUPPORT MARRIGE SO QUICKLY BREAK. BUT ARRANGE MARRIGE IS FUTRE TENSE ,PARRENTS SUPPORT SO CONTINUE FOR LIFE LONG.

ARRANGE MARRIGE BETTER THAN LOVE MARRIGE

love marriage is best

there are many idea of love marriage n arrange marriage …….. both have their own point,, even thought i still strongly agree with love marriage !!!
coz i do fall in love with one boy too.

i love…….love marriage

i love…….love marriage…

helo friends,
i wud like to share some views of mine…dat i hd observe…
when parents r going through twds finding a perfect match.. den by considering their views u must check out the boy or a girl and try to compare her/him with ur gf/bf if u find bettr den her dan go for her else..vice versa!!
m only sayng ds as bcz parents view shud also b considrd othrws wen u r marrying wd a girl or guy whom u love..then u hv no ryt to think why the hell i m marryng wd ds gal or guy…so dont change ur mind in any situation!!

love marriage is the best for ever..!!;)

Its not aboutt which is better its about which is succesfull and which is long lasting
giving example for ur viev is a joke
love marrige is also old thing not new then why it is noeasly adaptable
because if u could not ynder stand ur parents by knowing them so many years and u challanging u r so uch comfortable with ur chisen person for veru few time
love marrige show only infatuation because if it is not so why every love marrige having beautiful partners
there r so many person near by who r so intelligent but not goodluking but we r not going for them in love affairs
so ARRANGE MARRIGE IS BETTER.

I think it depends. First of all it isn’t good to compare this kind of things. Love marriage is very good in the sense that before our marriage we know the person whom we are going to be married. Before marriage there is kind of mutual bond between the couple. It is just like heaven with the man/women of your dream. But in arranged marriage all of a sudden we are left to live with a stranger. But figure shows that love marriage are more prone to divoce. It actually a debatable topic, and has no true solution.
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I feel that arrange marriage is better because it mostly leads to happiness and now a days children make their own choices even in arrange.
in love most of the marriage end in divorces. the love they had before marriage starts diminishing after marriage. But in arrange marriage the understanding builds after marriage by then they both have time to settle down in each other life so i prefer arrange marriage.

If the love marriage doesn’t turn up the parents are the one who regret the most..
so always think before taking important decision in your life

most of the parents do not agree for love marraige because of the other cast… n when we fall in love with some one we never want to even know … parents should understand the new generation… parents do not be right always…. i dont believe in cast…. we are human and come in this beautifull world to live…. who gets love marraige never wants to loose their parents…. if parents get ready to leave their son or daughter just because of cast and their ego…. then why don’t we…..we can’t ignore parents roll in love marraige…… I GOT LOVE MARRAIGE WITH AGAINST OF MY PARENTS… ONE YEAR PASSED I M STILL HAPPY WITH MY DECISION…. EVEN MY PARENTS TOO…. I LIVING WITH THEM

Raja raman well said
Cheers mate

I believe in Love Arrange Marriage….Love someone who ll be flexible for ur family, worthy of ur family. choose some1 who can satisfy your parents.. choose some1 and approach ur parents confidently for arranging your marriage…..problem solve….

I truly support love
I’m in a relation wid a girl which of course means m a
Guy.
Since last 5 years we’re together and belive in me there’s Nothin like love
As said by Mr nandu about all the comments favouring love marriage are UN matured sir according to the lovers you are immature u need to change and let people live their life.
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Apko apki life partner sari dunia say haseen aor piari lagni chaya. tab hi zindagi main maza aata hay aor shakhsiat main nikhar aata hay. Agar aap ko apni BIVI say bar kar koi acha lagay tu apki chractor grooming ho hi nahee sakti…………………………………….Aab aap khud sooch lain love marriage achi hay ya arranged

arshad saab ap to sai chawaliyan martay hain ,lagta hay k apki shadi us se nahi hui jis se ap chahtay thay, or agr us se ho jati to apkay coments change hotay

i am sorry i m not against love marriage bt the fact is”ARRANGED MARRIAGE” will be better while making comparison…. we cant fix a particular person as our soul mate……its impossible…….however after marriage you are going to be loved by your life partner so be happy with that y to waste time by making love?????????

I think arranged marriage is more successful than love marriage . Because most of the love is not love only affection and new age young could not able to decide properly that their love is true or not. But parents have lots of experience of life so they choose perfect partner for their son or daughter.

Marriage is a part of life, you must have to marry in this regard all the major religions tells should have to marry- in want way u will marry is the different think, majority of the people are having a misconception regarding marrying more then one women is only in islam, if u study the spiritual books of hinduism god sreekrishna married how many womens? after 1952 the indian govt made an amendment that a hindu should marry a women, but here we never have to what the act say because constitution were writtened by man, where as religious was written by god think think please dont critics any others before knowing the real background. please excuse if some think wrng

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i yhink love marriegei better than arrange marriege

i think love marrage is better than arrange marriage coz love marriage can be arrange marriage but arrange marriage rear case of it canvert in love BECOZ LOVE EK BAR HOTA HI LIFE ME AND AGAR WO NA MILE TO LIFE KA KOI MATLAB HI NHI HOTA

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i think both r best we all knw that our parents choose the right person of us bt think dat,is alwys they r right so y doweery cases are incres in arrenge marriages,i support in love marriage,bcz i think in love marriages the person u love is alwys with u either ur family or in laws r supports u or not…….

arrange marrige is best cause-
parents will we with u if anythng wrong hPpen after mRriage.u can liv in a joint family. she will respect u more by call u “aap”,”hangi” insted of “0ye”, “tu”.
whynot love marriage-we know already d whole thngs abut or gf so it mKes d life booring aftr marrge.if she wants to live alone without parents thn we cant refuse her.if there is any problm in d relation thn our parents will not interfare..she wil shop more.

I’ve tryed both and found the arrange marriage is the one most beautiful thing i’ve ever experienced.

i think arreange marrige better than love marrige…bcouse you cant go aginst your father what will u think about u………..so pls dont disapointed your perents they love u very much

i think love is better…………….

love marriage is better than arrange marriage

love marriage is always better than arrange marriage because in this age money is life but which couple fall in love only that person know about love life and money and those people know about love life and money they are always success in life at any wayw

Love marriage is better than arrange marriage….

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Love marriage is better than Arranged. But it also depends how much both believe on each other, how much both adjust with each other, how much they give time to each other. Its nothing like divorce cases happen only in love, many times it happens in arranged also, many times in love also. It totally depends on partners how much they lov & try to adjust with each other.