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Love Marriage Vs Arranged Marriage

Friday January 30, 2004
Most people tend to equate Hindu marriage with arranged marriage. What if the girl or the boy refuses to marry the person chosen by their parents? What if they choose a partner of their own liking and opt for a love marriage? Will the Hindu society rule out such a marriage? Find out in this discussion...
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July 4, 2008 at 5:21 am
(1) raja raman says:

Those inconsistent people who dont have guts to make love and choose even their ‘life partner ‘ will always say arranged marriage is best!!!
ha ha ha

September 18, 2008 at 5:47 am
(2) Kapil Joshi says:

I personnaly feel that love marriages are much more beneficial in comparison to arranged but i also think that it is very difficult to predict the ideal sort of marriage. It is up to the individual to decide whether he wants to have a love or an arranged marriage.

April 5, 2009 at 3:26 am
(3) Sarah says:

I agree with Kapil Joshi. Its not about how much ‘guts’ you have. its about doing what will make you happy. many people around the world feel extremely priveliged to have a marriage arranged for them by a respected elder. if this is what they choose then good for them!

May 23, 2009 at 4:37 am
(4) naveed ahmed says:

i vl always in the favor of love marriage bcos u spend ur whole wth ur partner not the parents bt the sugetion of parents r also must

May 31, 2009 at 10:08 am
(5) pandu says:

love marriages are now a days becoming high in number but most of them are being collapsed because of lack of the meaning of love
on the other hand arranged marriages are being vanished but up to me these are the best because there is a chance of the parents who take care can involve and select a nice & suitable match.

June 1, 2009 at 7:04 pm
(6) Shruti says:

The concept of love in marriage and the concept of the couple’s choice being agreeable to the families of all involved should not be mutually exclusive, as some would like to think. Both together make a successful marriage possible.

June 20, 2009 at 10:10 am
(7) arshhii says:

i respect wat u all said. but i feel arrange or love marrige both also will be successful if u r ready to be with dat.. if ur r the person who is kind, faithful,truthful,religious,loving husband o wife insha allahh u will get bright future.
thankyou..

July 25, 2009 at 7:04 am
(8) medinat says:

hello i guess love marriage is much more better than arranged why?because what the arranged marriage has compromised alot in live of people you wouldnt have believed.most girls strangle themselves because of forcing them on marriage.parent should be surbordinate in selecting partner for their children.
i men it should be forbidden!!!!!!!!!
THANKS.

August 13, 2009 at 11:30 am
(9) mona paul says:

obviously love marraige is better than arranged.mostly for girls.u dont need to b bound with rituals & tradition.spouse can b free with each other.but firstly one have to realize is there true luv or infatuation btween them.then decide to tie knot.aranged is bakwas.bulls***t

September 6, 2009 at 3:14 am
(10) Ratnadeep says:

Love marriage is better. As in Mahabharata, people like Lord Krishna, Arjuna had love marriage. On the other hand, Rukmini, Subhadra were about to force to marry the person whom their father/brother had looked for them. This proves love marriage is more advisable than arranged. So the supporter of Hinduism must clean their minds in favor of love marriage and encourage it.
As Raja mentioned only the weaker people who are still not dependent on parents or have no taste of their own prefer arranged marriage.

October 4, 2009 at 11:45 am
(11) umesh sankhla,nagaur says:

i think love marriage is not bed if your lover is 100% true.with u, if it’s just afection, then it will be unsucessful, and if both are loving each other with honestly then they should marriage with each other and consider their defaults and + points,and share with each- other ,then they will be supereb couple in univercel… they will always happy and joy ther life..it’s true.. but i am come at family metter, then u should give trully all matter front of family and wait for “yes” by parents, as u know parents have a soft corner, they will agry..

October 5, 2009 at 7:49 am
(12) Rohini says:

It is not one or the other if you have some traditional selection process such as same socioeconomic, education and religious background will make your future life in love marraige stronger. It is not that parents selected or individual selected is better. Most marraiges fail in later life, when the other things become more important in your life such as raising kids with values and Social obligations.

October 6, 2009 at 3:09 am
(13) suman says:

wht i believe…India is a male dominant country wether we agree or not..and success rate of marriage in india is high as compare 2 foreign…because man says and women listens..but situation has chaged.we women r well educated..professional qualified and independent..no 1 wants 2 compromise..so be it arrange or a love marriage irs always better 2 benda bit then break…and marriage dnt break bcoz we have 2 raise kids with values or of social obligation…its a beautiful way of survival and statying tune and warmth in relationship

October 23, 2009 at 1:51 am
(14) Vimala Devi says:

If marriage is decided in heaven, why there is a debate over love marriage vs arranged marriage? Don’t the couple that is meant to be together will be together no matter what type of marriage they undergo?

October 23, 2009 at 1:54 am
(15) Vimala Devi says:

Since marriage is dacided in heaven, don’t 2 people who are meant to be with each other will be married no matter what type of marriage they undergo?

November 16, 2009 at 5:22 am
(16) rakesh says:

I think Love marrige is the best if you are really satisfied and commited to your partner.It needs alot of understanding and consistency.
Whereas arranged one is good if you are not in love with any one..arrangeed is waht indias tradition..

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